Antoine and Carole are a couple who have been together since their adolescence and have become each other's soul mates. In their wonderful marriage, they also have two children named Veronique and Amelie. As a result of the many years they spent together, Antoine and Carole have become each other's soul mates. Later, Antoine meets Rose and ends his marriage to Carole. While the first story goes back to the 1960s, the second continues from today. In another parallel story, Jacqueline lives with her son Laurent, who has Down syndrome. She is a mother who is obsessed with her son. One day, his son Laurent falls in love with a girl who also has Down syndrome at the kindergarten he attends. Jacqueline does not want her son to be with that girl and tries to separate them.
Two parallel stories are actually conveyed as two events following each other. The two families are actually reincarnations of each other. Carole learns this truth through the medium she visits. It is best to save the rest of the movie for those who have not watched it. However, the way director Jean-Marc Vallee connected the two stories in the finale was extremely interesting, both cinematically and in terms of what it made us think about relationships.
Romantic relationships often begin with great passion. Partners feel a great sexual attraction towards each other. Then, as time progresses, the desire felt decreases. The emotion felt and described as love begins to be replaced by love. The parties' mutual dedication, commitment to each other, and outlook on life from similar perspectives become the main determining factor. They complain about being each other's soulmates. At this point, there is a risk of "parenting" as a result of that intense love. As desire is replaced by compassion, the roles become mixed. If we look at what we said specifically in the film, as the dose of affection between Carole and Antoine increases over time, the sexual attraction between them gives way to a typical mother-son relationship. In the parallel story of the film, we see the same relational structure between Jacqueline and her son Laurent. After her conversation with the medium, Jacquelene puts her son and the girl her son is in love with in her car and moves at full speed to the finale of their part of the story. s. Carole, who witnessed these moments in her dream, enters the house where Antoine and Rose live together, almost in a kind of trance, and loves Antoine as if she were Jacquelene in the parallel story and says that she forgives him. This moment is a kind of moment of dissolution and emotional release (catharsis) for Carole in the movie. As in Cafe de Flore, relationships that begin with intense desires are replaced by intense love over time. There, the partner's attraction is replaced by other sacrifices, sacrifices and efforts. Most of the time, couples try to recapture that attraction that they call relationship, which is actually desire itself. This is not possible in realistic evaluations. Perhaps the death of desire is a phenomenon that cannot be brought back to life, just like the death of man. According to this idea, focusing on the reincarnation of love is a futile effort. Giving more importance to emotions such as love and trust will be the key to happiness in long-term relationships.
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