Family, Couple and Marriage Therapist, Specialist Psychologist Naciye Tokaç said in her statement about the anxiety of loneliness: “How can a person who was not created alone even in his existence endure the unbearable pain of loneliness? Loneliness; It means pain, sadness, unhappiness, not having anyone to care about and being alone. Perhaps the most painful situation a person can experience in his life is loneliness. "While loneliness is so difficult and unbearable for some people, for some people it has positive meanings such as peace, tranquility, not being managed by anyone, and no one interfering in one's life," he said.
Loneliness is often a need for a person and Expert Psychologist Naciye Tokaç said that sometimes people need to rest by being alone, not to talk, and to be silent. “However, we see that this situation is needed very rarely and that people are afraid of being alone and alone. Especially people who think about their future may feel loneliness more deeply and irreparably. The individual who sees that his parents are getting old and may lose them over time, and sends his siblings and friends off to the institution of marriage one by one; "They are worried about being alone," he said.
Stating that individuals who have concerns about being alone find the solution in overcoming a good relationship, lover and spouse, Tokaç said, "Thus, the individual whose desire for marriage intensifies can look at many people he encounters as future spouses. It can be said that concerns about loneliness, in a sense, force the person to get married.
While marriage should be made when the maturity level of two adults reaches the level where they can share life with another person; Individuals with loneliness anxiety see marriage as a tool to relieve their anxiety. Individuals who marry due to concerns about loneliness; While trying to relieve his own loneliness concerns; They expect their spouses not to make them feel lonely. They expect their partner to take care of them, to think about them most of the time, to meet their needs, and to participate in social activities together. Some individuals' desires become so great that; blame their spouses for having private moments of their own, describing it as behavior that is not appropriate for marriage. They may. They think that it is a requirement of marriage that they always want to do activities with their spouses. Actually, the reason for this is; They got married so they wouldn't be alone. When you want to reach your spouse at any time during the day; When he cannot reach his wife due to a meeting, he interprets this as being alone again and develops thoughts that no one cares about him and that he is alone even if he has a spouse.
The anxiety of loneliness is a psychological problem in itself and cannot be resolved through marriage. Other psychological problems that may be related to the feeling of loneliness should not be ignored. Loneliness concerns, which can accompany many other problems such as depression, personality disorders, manic depressive disorder (Bipolar) and family communication problems, cannot be relieved by anyone involved in the person's life. "I can say that people who have concerns about loneliness and want to get married to relieve their loneliness will experience a happier relationship in their marriages after first solving the problems that cause them to feel lonely," he said.
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