The summer holidays that children have been looking forward to for a year have finally begun. However, this period, in which many difficulties such as exams, classes, and having to wake up early, come to an end, albeit temporarily, brings with it other question marks for mothers and fathers. The holiday season, which means relaxation and freedom for children, raises many questions for parents, especially about time and activity planning. We have prepared an advice letter to answer their questions.
If the child's report card is lower than what he can do; Do not punish or blame, use the holiday as an opportunity to investigate the reasons. However, the first thing we need to question is our own parenting skills. Because the report card received is the report card of both the child and the family. Am I interested in my child's life? Have I created the appropriate environment (physical, emotional, psychological)? Have I met their basic needs? Have I been a support (not a savior) to my child? Have I been the right guide-model? Am I living my own life in an orderly manner? Am I in my own mental health? Did I get support from the right places and people in solving the problems? If you cannot answer yes to their questions, it means you should stop, think and pay attention to them.
The best gift is the time you devote wholeheartedly to your child. We see that report card gifts are greatly exaggerated. Of course, a small representative gift can be purchased. However, your child who strives for rewards may think that he is working for you. The most lasting and special gift is being together with your child willingly and lovingly during the summer holiday.
Holiday means; It does not mean unlimited televisions, computers and tablets. Children are waiting for the tablets and computers that are given to them in a limited way or not at all during the school period to be turned on. You need to talk about this with our children, who view holidays as watching television, playing tablets and playing computers. These activities should be limited and controlled during the holiday. During periods when the tablet, television and computer are turned off; There must be other activities, either alone or with you. Because when the child is alone, he turns to technology. He will die! Don't let your children grow up with technology... Because when the child is alone, he will turn to technology!
Have a conversation about how he wants to spend the holiday. Let him create his own plan that suits your possibilities and family life. If he makes his own plan, he will embrace it more and it will turn into a pleasant holiday rather than a duty.
If his report card is not good, he often Sentences such as "We would do it if your report card was good", "You don't deserve this", "I will do it if you will study next year" should not be made. Such conversations will cause blame and make the child feel worthless-incompetent-failure, so the child's success will not increase further. So these are not useful sentences, they will have the opposite effect. What can we do to make it work more regularly? It would be more useful to research the answer to the question.
You can offer to buy a holiday book. During the summer, he should not forget his existing knowledge, he should not forget the time. Talk about its benefits, such as using it efficiently and starting the next year on a good note, and ask what he thinks about it. Make decisions together in a consensual way. Like “Let's get it after the holidays”, “Let me solve topics and questions from the book for 1 hour every day”.
Spend the day productively by planning it. . As we explained above, you can distribute the activities they can do both alone and with you throughout the day in a planned manner. This detail is very valuable for them to gain experience in how to plan their time in their future lives, as well as to gain a sense of responsibility.
Play games and activities together. Do it. Increase the time periods you spend together in accordance with your child's age and developmental stage. Plan activities together at home or outside for fun, sometimes for learning, and sometimes just to increase the feeling of closeness. Quit your job and do it; really see, hear, touch and feel your children.
For a year, “study” Fix your broken relationship by saying �. It will be good to have fun together and do it willingly. Lessons are not the only fact of life. As long as your relationship is good and solid, as you show your child that you care about him and teach him to take responsibility, lessons will be learned. Not doing lessons is a consequence. It would be beneficial to determine the reasons by getting support from an expert.
You can direct your children to workshop programs, sports, music, theater, etc. activities. Children need to learn their imagination, creativity, patience, struggle, and enduring adversity. You can ask your children's ideas about activities suitable for their interests and abilities, in which they can develop these skills, and provide guidance on this matter.
Read a book together.
strong> For this, you can create a book list together. You can aim to finish these books over the summer. Do not turn this into a task and turn it into a vicious circle of studying in the winter period, such as "Have you read your book?", "Read your book then". If we tell children to "read a book" and watch TV ourselves, or if we do not put down our phone or tablet, naturally we cannot give this habit to them. Plan reading times together. If your child is young; Sit him on your lap, read to him, ask him to interpret his pictures.
Spend time outside, go for a walk. The park you can go to together. , can be open areas such as gardens; Activities such as cinema, theater or visits to relatives and neighbors will distract the child from technology, improve their communication skills, and because you have a good time, your self-confidence, self-esteem and relationships will improve.
You can have pets. Having a pet as much as your home, time and resources allow will also be beneficial for your child to take responsibility. You can do research together and have conversations about what the animal you bought eats, what kind of environment it should live in, its needs, etc.
On their own. Give them the opportunity to learn to spend time. It is not appropriate to constantly try to make children's lives easier and entertain them in a rush to have them have a good time. When they get bored on their own, you can support them to try to find a solution. “I understand that you are bored. I wonder what you can do? Chat like this.
Children in middle school and high school can meet their friends. It would be good to know the friends they meet and where they go. It would be beneficial to reframe your pre-existing rules and decide together. Where will he go and with whom? What will they do? When will he come? You can send it by getting clear answers to questions such as.
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