Mothers and fathers, know that we are role models for our children whether we want to or not. They imitate us in the first years of their lives and build on what they learn from us. Even though they use their own initiative after adolescence, they think and act on this basis (“Being a man of your age”, “I suffered a lot from you! My childhood memories” and “Being at peace with childhood memories” can be read).
In the light of this information, it can be said that "our children are like our reflections in the mirror". If there is no disease diagnosis (such as "conduct disorder") made by a colleague of mine who is a child and adolescent psychiatrist, and our child is a healthy individual, it would be appropriate to look back at ourselves when questioning a negative behavior/attitude we see in him/her.
“My son. Why does he steal money from his mother's purse and steal from the store's safe whenever he gets the chance? The answer to the question may be: "This situation happens to me in my business life due to reasons such as taking too much money from my customers, using fraudulent scales, or evading taxes." Because I lied to my father, my client, my neighbor…?” It may be a healthier approach to ask ourselves.
Instead of getting angry by saying, "Why does this child disrespect me as a parent and does the opposite of what I say out of spite?", instead of asking, "What kind of a child did I do to my mother/father that this child treats me like this?" ” can lead us to a solution.
Instead of getting upset by saying, “He has grown up and his tendency towards violence has increased, if he wasn't ashamed, he will beat me.” “These things happened to me because I raised my hand against my wife/child/neighbor… I should apologize to the people I used violence against and regret it.” It may be more beneficial to implement the solution "so that my child stays away from violence".
The bottom line is that one should say "don't eat honey" before eating honey.
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