It is impossible not to feel feelings of worry and anxiety these days. In fact, our goal is not to completely eliminate worry and anxiety. Anxiety also has a side that protects us against dangerous situations.
Of course, we will be worried during this period so that we can take precautions against the situation we are experiencing. But how realistic do we experience anxiety? Anxiety that constantly accompanies disaster scenarios before anything happens to us and that makes our daily lives difficult is harmful to us. I can almost hear you asking, "Is there any daily life left?" Yes, all of our daily lives, routines and habits have not disappeared, in fact, they have changed. It is precisely this necessary change that worries and worries us. While the change itself makes us anxious, even if it is for a good thing, now we are having difficulty with how to keep up with this change that is not our own choice and is not arbitrary.
This is exactly the point where it is time to Accept the change. Whatever the reason, to continue by accepting the change, that is, our order and routine have changed. Saying "I continue with a new order" keeps us away from the feeling of helplessness, and the state of continuity makes us stronger. Well, you can start to take this change under your own control by starting with the questions "What do I want my new order to be like?" What do I want my new routines to be?
Although it may seem like a disadvantageous situation, it is in our hands to turn it into an advantage. Things like turning to ourselves instead of constantly focusing on the disease and related issues, trying to get in touch with our own creative sides, making time for the things we want to do but postpone, according to our means, and listening to our inner voice, which we sometimes cannot listen to in the daily rush, can be a good start. Changing the focus will cause everything to look different, which in turn will cause it to be experienced differently.
Even a negative experience can be experienced much differently from a different perspective. When we get rid of excess worry and anxiety, we begin to hear the voices coming from our own inner world. We all have coping skills for the current situation. It's about how much we reveal our coping side. I wonder if the worry and anxiety or the coping side of me takes the lead. I will give it to you. The whole point is hidden in how we handle this process.
We always tend to do something to eliminate anxiety. The measures we take now, staying at home, paying attention to hygiene, etc. are actually our concrete methods of coping and fighting. . Saying "I'm staying at home, I'm struggling" instead of "I stayed at home, damn it" makes us feel better. On the other hand, working to strengthen ourselves without letting anxiety take us captive is one of the abstract coping methods.
Everything you do for yourself is a method of struggle. As long as we know we are struggling, we will survive. In other words, we do not allow this process to manage us, we become the ones managing the process. Corona is not about me, I will beat coronavirus. Our most important slogan should be. Try to follow news that you are sure is accurate and functional as much as possible. If you are uncomfortable or useless information is being shared in Whatsapp groups, individual posts, etc., stay away for a while and block it. Don't let anyone worry you even though you don't want to.
During this process, problems about yourself, emotions and thoughts you have postponed, and past memories may suddenly appear where they are. The emotions we experience in the face of an unexpected situation may trigger situations that exist, remind us of this or happened in the past. This is an expected and valuable situation in terms of confrontation and awareness with ourselves. It is possible to reconsider the situation regarding everything and include it in our lives in a different way.
It is also possible to get support from a psychologist regarding all of these. These days when we cannot meet face to face, we continue our process by meeting online. Online meetings are sessions held via digital platforms in accordance with ethical rules and confidentiality. You can benefit from this opportunity whenever you want.
I hope this change process will bring you days of strength with its contributions.
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