Who wouldn't want homes built with thousands of beautiful dreams, handcrafted dowries, and the most sincere wishes of "get married on one pillow" to last a lifetime!
However, we see that there is distrust in the institution of marriage in our country as well. It is increasing day by day, couples are finding it difficult to maintain their marital ties, and at the slightest problem they choose to part with their pillows, then their beds, then their rooms, and finally their ways, and divorce rates are increasing rapidly.
However, living in a happy and harmonious relationship is not as easy as it seems. it is not difficult,
COUPLES ARE NOT SERIOUS
“Marriage means 'I want to be US with YOU, by protecting ME and without destroying YOU. ' means, Couples should try to understand each other and maintain harmony between them without taking the easy way out of the situation when they step into a new life with someone they think they will be happy with, and should not force each other to fit into the female / male roles in their minds.
The secret of a happy marriage is communication. You should be able to really talk, convey your feelings and thoughts in the ME language without blaming each other, without opening old notebooks, without involving each other's families, and when you get angry with each other, you should take continuous steps to solve the problem after taking a small calming break.
Neither eye contact nor heart contact. You should not break contact or skin contact, and you should never exceed the limit of mutual respect.
FOR HAPPINESS AND HARMONY IN MARRIAGE...
“1- Show your love openly. Never stop expressing to your spouse that you love him/her with words and actions. Loving and knowing that you are loved is a primary need for everyone. The biggest mistake made in marriages is that after a while, spouses start not expressing their love for each other. Never stop telling your spouse that you love him by using his love language.
2- Make him feel that you value him.Show that you like your spouse, value him, and respect him. Value their thoughts and listen to them without judging them, approve them, appreciate them, never compare them with others and never humiliate them. Empathize to understand your partner's feelings and thoughts. When you are sad, anxious, nervous Try to understand how he feels by talking to him.
3- Don't try to change.No one is perfect. Every person can have good and bad sides, positive and negative characteristics. Focus on your partner's positive traits and good aspects, not their negative traits. By tolerating their negative characteristics, you will prevent possible disagreements and arguments that may arise.
4- Do not keep secrets.Never lie to your spouse and do not hide anything from him. One of the pillars of marriage is trust. Avoid any words or actions that will shake your partner's trust. Once trust is shaken, it is very difficult to regain it as before.
5-Control your anger.When you get angry, avoid saying any words that will hurt your spouse or taking any action that will harm him/her. Keep your anger under control. If you cannot control your anger, stay away from your spouse until he calms down.
6-Apologize.Admit the mistakes you made maturely and apologize. But consider your apology as a promise not to make that mistake again and make an effort not to repeat your mistakes.
7- Share the responsibilities.Take all the responsibilities and work to be done fairly in the common life. Share it somehow. Do not put the entire burden of marriage and daily life on your spouse's shoulders.
8- Make special time for each other.Create opportunities to spend time alone with your spouse. Try to share more things together and create common pleasures. Build beautiful memories that you will be happy to remember in the future. Go back to your flirting periods.
9- Create a private living space for yourself. Remember that you and your spouse do not only have a life dedicated to your marriage, but also a life of your own. Both of you make time for your individual interests and hobbies. We call allocating private time for oneself 'individualization', and spending time together with other couples as a couple 'socialisation'. A couple who socializes and individualizes both feels free and can develop and protect their 'we identity'.
10- Experience harmony in sexuality.In addition to the emotional togetherness required for a happy marriage, there must also be a regular and healthy sexual relationship. Take care to have a sexual life with your spouse in which you experience the harmony of romance and eroticism.
11- Consult a marriage therapist.Marriage therapy is not only a method for conflicting couples, but also for both relational and erotic relationships. It can make a significant contribution to resolving or enriching sexual incompatibilities. Therefore, never hesitate to get support from a marriage therapist who is an expert in his field.”
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