When we fall in love, we do not think of the possibility of suffering in the future. In the beginning of love, there is nothing but joy and butterflies in our stomach. Everything is beautiful, even close to perfect, “with him”.
Unfortunately, things may change over time. Even the way we look at people... Even the person we fall in love with may be affected by this change. Your favorite habits may start to bother you. Your perspective on issues on which you previously had common ideas may change; You can start discussions from different perspectives. After a while, you may find it "boring" when your partner is always "the same". Or, conversely, your partner changes so much that you almost feel like you don't know him. And all of these can cause you to feel unhappy and dissatisfied while you are in a relationship.
This situation is usually resolved when partners talk openly with each other. But the problem in relationships really starts here: the anxiety of facing problems. Most of the time, this anxiety and not knowing how to start the conversation that accompanies this anxiety can prevent the parties from taking action. Even if you've tried it before, if something comes out wrong, it can cause you to be misunderstood and cause the argument to escalate. As a result of allowing the problems in between and the walls built with these problems, the only way out seems to be separation.
Although separation seems necessary as a result of long-lasting troubles, what if the partners' love for each other continues deep down and the couple still tries to work out the relationship? If they have a desire to put At this point, we need to think that there may be solutions other than losing the relationship. Even if you've tried many ways, accepting that an outside eye can help you may be another solution you haven't tried. Rather than seeing that person from the outside as a "stranger", seeing that person as someone who is educated and equipped to deal with the problems you are experiencing will help you overcome the problems in your relationship. This person will help you gain a new perspective as a counselor and guide.
Relationship and family counseling, or as you know it by other names. In therapy methods such as couple therapy and marriage therapy, the counselor does not tell couples what they should or should not do, contrary to popular belief. Instead, in the therapy room, you and your partner shape your future by reflecting on your past and present, talking about everything. The most important point of couples therapy is that couples can be open to each other. It is necessary to be a good listener and help understand the real underlying problem. The counselor will act as a guide at this point, raise awareness and work to open the points of resistance and ensure the continuation of the conversation. Your therapist will not take responsibility or make decisions on your behalf and will never take sides. The main goal in couples therapy is the relationship, and the therapist is there for both of you. The topics of couple therapy include your fears of talking, your false beliefs, your past and your concerns about your future.
At this point, the question "When is it better to get help?" may come to mind. Whenever it feels“right”, wheneveryou think“you need it”. Small problems are never small when it comes to happiness. You may think that what is bothering you is not a "real relationship problem", but if it is between two partners, the problem is a real relationship problem that is worth solving.
Couple and family therapies do not guarantee that the parties should always stay together. Just because you're going to therapy doesn't mean you won't leave. If staying in the relationship is not beneficial for either party, therapy will help you recognize this, see what is wrong, and end the relationship in a more understanding way. In fact, this way, a separation can be experienced free of "reasons and wishes". Moreover, if there are children, a healthier environment will be provided for them.
The point that should not be forgotten is that couple and family therapy will always be beneficial. Whatever the outcome. You can ask for support from an expert to help you feel stronger by knowing yourself, understanding your partner, and having increased awareness. Don't wait for small problems to turn into big problems. This You are in this relationship right now and you both deserve to live this relationship with love.
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