Quality time is when the parent is with the child mentally and physically, makes him/her feel it and spends time with him/her, it is special time reserved for the child where no one interrupts and everything is left aside. It is not the quantity of time spent with the child, but its quality, continuity and togetherness that is important. In the child-parent relationship, time should be spent in the form of sharing, interaction, and mutual exchange of emotions. The aim should be to understand the child, to listen carefully, to understand his needs, joys, happiness, anger, sadness and concerns. Children need to share their world and feelings with their parents, they expect their participation, and if the time spent with the child is spent sharing, then it is of high quality.
The foundations of the communication between the parent and the child are laid during the time the family spends with the child. Spending time together is important because as long as time is spent together, the child feels important and loved. The child has the opportunity to watch his parents and model the positive behaviors he sees from his parents. In addition, the parent gets the chance to better observe the strengths and weaknesses of the child's character and to better guide his child. The child may have the opportunity to express his/her thoughts and feelings in a stimulating environment. Self-confidence develops and thus, the relationship between parent and child becomes stronger. The main purpose of spending quality time together is; to love it; understanding and raising him/her as a happy, harmonious and useful person for society.
If the relationship between parent and child is weak and unhealthy; It may show behaviors such as shutting down.
•In addition to aggression, it may be effective in obesity as a result of the child not spending quality time with the family.
•Children may be more prone to developing emotional and behavioral disorders.
0-2 AGE PERIOD;
0-2 year old children are in the trust and bonding period of life. This process is also the years in which the child will get to know the world and develop his verbal and motor skills. It is very important to establish eye contact during this period. with child It is necessary to talk while playing games together in a way that supports his/her language development. Dealing with something else during the game, or abruptly stopping the game and moving away from the environment can damage the child's sense of confidence. In order to increase the parent-child relationship and the child's self-confidence, it is necessary to make the child realize what he has achieved and give positive feedback during games and togetherness.
3 YEARS OLD PERIOD;
For children aged 3 and above, games can be limited to certain limits. These limits are determined in an understandable manner appropriate to the age of the child. For example; The child may be limited to one game. Games can be in the form of "imaginary games" that support the child's mental development. Playing with dough, sand, legos and painting with paints develops the child's imagination.
4-5 YEARS OF AGE PERIOD; From 4-5 years of age, the child's identification figure His relationship and sharing with his same-sex parent becomes very important. The daughter enjoys cooking in the kitchen with her mother, the son enjoys repairing things with his father, etc. He enjoys it very much. Also in this period, artistic activities with the development of children's motor skills and imagination; Games such as painting, cutting and pasting, coloring together, and interpreting illustrated stories together can be played. In addition, the child's tendency to act like a parent increases during this period.
PRIMARY SCHOOL AGE
The school child is now aware of himself and his wishes. During this period, it is right to share the activity plan with him, get his expectations from him, and even encourage him to plan appropriate times and activities and give him responsibility. When asked about activity suggestions for children this age, the options are; It could be watching television, playing computer, shopping and going to the movies. Sometimes these demands can leave families in a bind. Because it is necessary to encourage children to engage in different activities as much as possible. The important thing when watching television or playing the computer is to spend a quiet period of time where everyone is looking at the screen. It is to save you from dying. During these times, you should not forget to exchange ideas with him, that is, to communicate together and to make as much eye contact as possible. In this age group, alternatives such as box games should be preferred by families.
Apart from these, other activities to be done with the child are: housekeeping or playing with toys. Garden games or games with balls or balloons can be played. Puppet and dramatization games can reflect the inner world of children, so they should be played. Painting and the colors used are also means of expression. It may be a good opportunity to get information about the child and not be observed. Listening to music, singing or making musical sounds using items at home can be great fun.
Reading books and magazines together, doing puzzles, making food or dessert, preparing and clearing the table, sorting things together by color and type or Activities such as collecting toys by counting, chatting and sharing feelings, thoughts and experiences, walking or doing sports together can be done. In addition, their social development can be contributed to by different activities such as watching and interpreting cartoons together, visiting the zoo, watching cinema, theater and shows together, visiting museums and historical and touristic places.
No matter what is done during the time spent with the family. It should be fun, relaxing and uplifting. As the quality time spent with the family increases, the child becomes an individual who loves and feels loved. He feels important, and this feeling, which develops at an early age, manifests itself in the choices the child makes and approaches to events in his future life.
Parent is the first and most important educator in the child's life. That's why family involvement; It is of great importance for children's development, learning and the quality of pre-school education. Family involvement; It is the whole of the activities in which parents contribute to the development and education of their children attending educational institutions. All of these activities aim to support the parent's role in their child's education and development. The most effective education required for the child occurs when the mother, father and teacher work together.
Many studies show that family-participated activities have positive effects on children. He showed that he was a man. Among these effects; There are features such as higher self-confidence, higher academic success, easily starting and maintaining friendships, higher motivation, and a decrease in negative behaviors. With the right guidance, support and appropriate activities, you can provide your child with many knowledge and skills, reinforce existing skills and your relationship, and ensure your child's psychological satisfaction. “The earlier your participation in your child's education begins, the more effective and permanent it will be. The most effective results occur when the parent spends quality time directly with the child at home and does educational activities “(Cotton, K. Wikelund, K.).
While supporting the child's social skills, he also improves his mental capacity, hand muscles, problem solving skills, One-on-one educational activities should be carried out in order to develop problem-solving skills, language development and the relationship with the parent systematically, permanently and effectively. Carrying out activities with family participation in a certain order and continuity will increase their effect. When you spend one-on-one time with your child and give him your full attention during these activities, it will contribute to the strengthening of your relationship and healthy communication. In addition, you can give him a lot of new information through family-participated activities that he can learn by trying, and you will give him the opportunity to get to know himself (skills, characteristics, etc.).
In parallel with the rapid development of the brain and nervous system between the ages of 0-6. The child's learning capacity increases rapidly and stimuli from the environment become important for adequate mental development. Conscious practices, especially for the family and the child, are important in achieving the desired goals. When applied together with the child's education in the pre-school education program, it can be seen that this comprehensive education has more permanent effects. Some of the effects of family involvement are that children have more positive attitudes towards school, are more successful at school, and prepare better quality homework.
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