Cheating is an important breach of contract that disrupts the sense of trust and deeply affects the marital relationship. For the deceived party, the familiar spouse suddenly turns into a stranger. When it comes to cheating, the motto for many of us, "If there is cheating, the marriage ends", is not actually valid. Research shows that 80% of marriages continue after cheating.
The answer to the question of what is considered cheating today varies from person to person. Like liking a stranger's photo on social media, complimenting someone else, having sex, emotional flirting, the list can go on and on. We can say very clearly on this subject that "deception is the definition of the person who is deceived". Behaviors that are clearly disturbing and would constitute a violation of the marriage contract should be clarified between the spouses. From this point on, if one of the couples says, "Expressing your admiration to a person you do not know on social media is a deception for me", the limit has been determined in this marital relationship.
How Does Family Therapy/Family Counseling Work with Deception?
After cheating occurs, there are two possibilities. First, this is unacceptable behavior for the deceived party and divorce is considered an option. Divorce counseling support can be obtained if needed during this process. More caution should be taken in divorces with children. The second possibility is to reconsider and restructure the family relationship. The most important issue here is that the cheating party has actually ended the other relationship. Otherwise, family therapy support will not provide any benefit. Another important issue is that the deceived party cooperates with the therapist to leave this issue behind.
Can everything be the same as before?
It was a very happy marriage but there was cheating, it was a very unhappy marriage full of tensions and there was cheating, etc. You may encounter stories at two extremes. Even if the marriage is going very badly, cheating is never acceptable. "Can a marriage be the same again after cheating?" is a frequently asked question, and the answer is very clear; "it can't be the same as before". This does not mean that if it cannot be the same as before, it will be worse. E� If correct and appropriate interventions are made, it is possible to structure a new family relationship, different from the old one. Family therapists work with couples, where blaming the cheating party and making the cheating party feel guilty and flawed is the greatest harm that can be done to a family. There is an event that has traumatic effects. If the family wants to continue their marriage, the medicine here is again the partner himself. The partner is active at all times, both in the process of treating the trauma and in the process of compensating for all that has happened. The therapist accompanies this change and restructuring process with the right interventions.
Divorce is an option, it should be evaluated carefully.
Divorce did not occur, but if this issue of infidelity cannot be left behind and a peaceful relationship cannot be maintained, this is the point. Family therapy support should be sought.
Whatever happened, perhaps with the professional support you will receive, you will move on with a new marital relationship that is stronger than before.
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