In today's conditions, parenthood is moving in different directions with the opportunities and working conditions brought by modern life. The presence of technology in every aspect of life also affects the choice of games and toys. Tablet, computer games and electronic toys are increasingly replacing games and toys that allow sharing emotions and thoughts. It is observed that faster, result-oriented and winning games are preferred instead of traditional children's games... On the one hand, adapting to modern life, keeping up with technology and not falling behind, on the other hand, becoming lonely, socially isolated, staying home and staying away from relationships and interaction... However, it should not be forgotten. The fact that the human being is a 'bio-psycho-social being'... While being biologically healthy comes first, our psychological aspect; our emotions, joys, sorrows, etc. Our spiritual side refers to our relationships, our family, our environment, our need to belong and our desire to be together. Because of this feature, humans need to develop in a balanced and harmonious manner in all aspects. Just as it is necessary to consult a doctor before a sick child is neglected; A similar approach should be adopted for the psychological and social development of children and the necessary attention and opportunities should be provided.
In order to raise an all-round balanced and harmonious child, interactions aimed at the development of psychological and social aspects rather than just meeting biological needs become very important. Children are the product of their environment and cannot be considered independently of their culture and family. The development of psychological and social aspects also varies depending on the family and environment. Strengthening the psychological and social aspects depends on the relationship established with the child and the quality of the relationship. The emphasis on time spent together has been frequently encountered lately. Yes, spending time together is very important, effective and necessary. So, is it the duration or the quality of time that is important?
According to a research; It has been observed that the father spends fifty seconds of one-on-one time with the child during the day, and the mother spends a maximum of five minutes of one-on-one time with the child. Although it is thought that they spent a long time together, It seems that the time during which the interaction takes place, that is, the time when the attention is completely on the child and awareness is present, is much shorter than thought. This means; Being in the same environment and sharing the same environment does not mean that we spend time together.
The message we want to give to the child during the time we are with the child;
'I am here for you',
'I'm listening to you',
I understand you',
'I care about you'...
Even if the shared time is short, the interaction and awareness is meaningful to the child. will make it. Spending time together instead of very expensive and complex toys will take more place in childhood memories.
For Happy Children;
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Share your feelings with our child, share your happiness with him
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When talking to your child, listen to him/her by making eye contact. Focus entirely on what the child is saying, without your attention elsewhere.
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Appreciate the child's strengths.
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Sit down to dinner together as a family.
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Teach others to care about their feelings
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Enable the child to express their feelings
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Show your love for your child
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Allow them to make friends with other children
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Reduce screen time
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