Excessive reactions to a situation - which may be in the form of thoughts or actions - appear in situations where one feels inadequate or indecisive to overcome the challenging situations he/she encounters. The dynamics of states of inadequacy or indecision emerge during childhood due to the restrictive (sometimes punitive) influences of parents. In other words, it originates from conflicts in childhood.
When the child is first born, he needs the care and love of his family. And the child cannot be considered independent of the caregiver. An overly dependent child is not likely to have negative feelings about his/her caregivers in the face of negative situations he/she experiences. The child, who cannot overcome the feeling of inadequacy, engages in excessive thinking or excessive action in order to avoid negative emotions that he cannot cope with.
What is meant by excessive thoughts; These are thoughts that replace (displace) the real thought in order to eliminate it. Indecision is so intense that the person cannot establish reality in his memory. For example, when a person leaves the house, he/she does not feel comfortable; he may wonder whether he turned off the stove, whether he locked the door, which route he should use when he goes out, whether the message or e-mail he sent to someone was sent, whether the person is dirty and uncomfortable with the situation when he comes home. We can define such thoughts as 'obsessive thoughts'. Behaviors used to relieve these thoughts are, for example, checking whether the message or e-mail has been sent, taking a quick bath when you come home and perhaps telling the members of the house to bathe as well, even if you choose which way to go, you do not feel comfortable and go back and use the other way, or constantly checking the stove or door lock. We can say that such situations are 'compulsive behaviors'. In other words, a thought obsession that cannot be prevented despite a person's efforts due to a situation that is stuck in consciousness, turns into a compulsion in some people to relieve the thought action. However, no matter how much it is said that it is done to relieve the mind, the person cannot actually relax. Excessive reactions to such obsessive-compulsive situations develop when the person is inadequate to overcome a situation. The emotions that occurred Instead of reducing the negative situations it creates in the person, it creates new situations that can harm the person.
The origins of such unpreventable situations are; It starts when parents, who have expectations before reaching sufficient maturity, demand greater responsibilities than the child's maturity. A child who has not reached sufficient maturity initiates a difficult situation between parent and child. Even though the child, who cannot receive understanding from his parents, tries to resist his inadequacy, he succumbs to this unfair attitude of the caregivers. If the parent adopts a very harsh attitude and constantly blames and punishes the child (this does not have to be strict, it can also be a sharp no answer), the fear of punishment in the child causes a feeling of guilt. The child begins to waver between the 'fear of guilt' and the 'anger and desire to resist'. The severity of this conflict becomes the determinant of obsessive-compulsive behaviors. In other words, his thoughts change places and he escapes from the main problem and deals with other problems. However, this tension does not ease by changing places, it just changes places and the tension remains!
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