Pervasive anxiety is a state of constant distress and tension. It is an increasing discomfort today because there are always earthquakes there, bombs explode here, conflicts take place in the world. The number of times we call him today and me tomorrow is increasing. This causes the triggers that increase anxiety. If we go back to childhood or even before, "I can be killed at any moment" is the way of thinking that shakes the foundation of anxiety. Without realizing it, the child grows up with this feeling. When they grow up, this sense of control is seen in those who have a greater sense of control compared to their peers with low other anxiety dynamics. For example, you are constantly checking something; One day you see that the child is sick, you realize that you cannot control the disease. Take care as much as you want, the child may be sick, this situation creates anxiety. You take care of your child very well, you see that your neighbor's child may die tomorrow, and yours may die tomorrow. You are making a new child, you can control him too, there are 3 people and you are comfortable. Then the child goes to school, you need to check the teacher; you need to check with friends to see if they can teach well; whether it's a good friend or a bad friend. The number of people you control increases. The child grows up and goes to university, he says he will marry such and such a person; you will need to check the bride or groom person then their grandchildren… the number of people to check increases. Initially, it does not bother you because the number of people is low, but as the number of people increases, the number of people to be controlled increases, so it reaches the level of discomfort. As we see in the example here, uncertainty is actually the enemy of anxiety. Everything he doesn't know bothers him. Then we can say that anxiety is the desire to know ahead of time, whether it is good or bad.
Anxiety increases when she realizes that she cannot control illness or death. Because the state of not knowing how to cope with this situation is the pin of anxiety.
Sometimes the conflict of the parents in childhood. can also cause anxiety. For example, the mother may be anxious all the time, and the child may have that emotion. The drugs that will not be used continuously can calm the feelings after 2-3 months. The goal is to get some progress in therapy. Once he learns the coping method, he will not need medication anyway.
Question: Sir, can depression and generalized anxiety be separated from each other?
Answer: yes, they can be. Depression includes depression, unhappiness, low energy and not enjoying life. Energy is high in anxiety; what if something happens, panic state is seen like i am very bad. They are restless and fidgety. Depression looks sad.
Sometimes we are also affected by events that we have not experienced. For example, a bomb exploding somewhere can trigger you. An earthquake that happened... When I ask if you know anyone here, I usually get the answer no. Then, who would it be if something bad happened to you first?“ I am afraid if my father dies, I am afraid if my mother dies.” There are two feelings here with childhood: I am afraid that my father will die, and I am afraid that I will kill my father. In other words, most of the concerns here come from their own sexual rival parental relationships in the oedipal period.
For example, the ISIS militant is beheading, you are watching. It's normal to feel a little uncomfortable when you see someone hurting someone. The part about reality remains, but if the thought is as effective as it was experienced, then we look at the things you reflect from your childhood.
In my daily life, I talk to someone about things like explosions, and most people's situation is terrible. 1. They have their own traumas, 2. There are traumas in the family, 3. There are traumas from the Stone Age: the tribe next door came and killed our tribe, it has been passed down from generation to generation. Talking about them reduces anxiety. It is the state of being here and now. Anxiety is the other name of saying I am either always in the past or always in the future.
It's also good socially to talk about them. Because if I have this in my brain, I will project it somewhere. I reflect the past trauma to my own child or my environment. It is also socially good for the client to break this chain. 1 person, 2 people break the chain that has been passed down from generation to generation, and then they talk about it to their environment. contributes to nya peace. Because people kill someone, but the person they killed is not him, either he or someone in childhood or one of the more backward traumas, for example, the traumas of 600,000 years ago can occur today.
Our brain wants clarity, it doesn't like uncertainty. Still, nothing is certain in life. One minute later, the ceiling collapses and we all die. We think that this ceiling will never collapse. Or you think your child is already dead at home and you are alive. In fact, there is only one certainty in life, and one day you will die. This information should comfort you, if not, you have uncertainties and memories in your childhood that you need to look at. What comes to mind when you think of uncertainty? You have memories of uncertainty, or there are parents who are too preoccupied with uncertainty. Is your mother going to beat you or love you, you look neutral. Or your mother is wondering whether my husband will go to another woman or not, there is uncertainty. You get your mother's feeling. We think that everything is under our control, but it is very little.
You talked about fears, but after that they still have fears because there is war in your country and someone can kill you. It's healthy for that fear to stay, because that fear protects you from danger, it's real. What we mean here is not to be afraid, not to be indifferent, but to distinguish between fantasy and reality. If there is a real problem and you are not afraid, there is a problem here. But there is no real problem, then you are afraid, then this fear is not a real fear, we should look at its sub-causes. Our business is all about reality. As they clear their childhood memories, some fear remains. For example, he has a real fear of being killed, and we talked about childhood. As fear increases, it reflects on the body and physical diseases may occur. Physical illnesses are actually good in the beginning, but dangerous in the long run. Thanks to physical ailments, I am protected from dozens of mental ailments, it is like heroin. It's good to drink heroin at the beginning, too. You drink heroin and you feel good that day, you forget your problems. In the medium and long term, heroin will harm you, it will go away. additional brain numbness, mental and physical diseases occur, close relationships deteriorate. These diseases are like that, they are good in the short term. But when he constantly complains about his back and head, your close relationships break down. Or you call the negative because you're whining all the time. Mental pain is worse than physical pain. You localize bodily pain; You can say it hurts right there, but you cannot define spiritual pain, it is a deep pain. That's why our brain works with the pleasure principle and reflects it to the body.
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