Family is a social unit and a system of various parts. The family is a group limited by the values of the society. Family; It is a basic unit where the sexual, psychological, social and economic needs of individuals who are related by blood, marriage and other legal means are met, and their integration and participation in society is ensured and regulated. The individual's upbringing as a person suitable for the society he lives in is first provided in the family environment. The Constitution of the Republic of Türkiye defines the family as the foundation of the whole society. Basic functions of the family; Continuation of the human generation, raising children, developing love with the care of family members, providing discipline and providing a supportive environment.
Features of a healthy family;
• Family members approach each other with interest and love. .
• They feel connected to each other.
• They enjoy each other's presence.
• They are good at resolving their conflicts.
• They treat each other as they are. they accept.
• They appreciate each other.
• They have common tastes.
• They can freely express their ideas and feelings to each other, and they do not have any trouble in this regard.
• They have the ability to joke about the events in the family and to approach the events in a humorous language.
• They spend time with each other.
• They cope with the problems successfully.
The satisfaction of family members from being a member of their family and belonging to this family, the sense of belonging and the satisfaction they get from their families are the determining emotions on their happiness. However, the important thing is not the amount of family happiness, but the effort of family members for the happiness of their families. Families with strict rules are closed to change and do not change the rules despite life changes.
Husband and wife in a healthy marriage;
• They are loyal to each other.
• They are very good friends.
• They both love and respect each other.
• They treat each other as they are. They know how to accept.
• They have common ideals for the future.
• They manage to resolve conflicts.
• Express their feelings and thoughts to each other clearly without fear or anxiety.
• They feel connected and trust each other.
• They support each other's personal goals and achievements.
• They lead a regular and healthy sex life.
• They spend enough time together enjoying themselves.
• They do not have financial problems or solve their problems easily.
• They do not experience many conflicts arising from each other's families.
• They have common ideas about the upbringing of their children.
• They take care not to use words that will hurt each other during discussions.
• They do not use physical violence against each other.
• Their religious and political views are common. At least they respect each other's opinions.
• They have agreed to share power in their marriage.
• They cooperate in the care of their children.
• They are forgiving to each other's mistakes, They have a supportive attitude towards each other.
• They take decisions together responsibly.
• They see each other as valuable and honorable.
• They accept each other as they are.
• Individuals know their own limits.
• They balance their own needs with those of the nest.
• Spouses prefer long-term happiness to short-term temporary gratifications.
• Spouses are mutually tolerant towards their families.
Even if few of these criteria have been met in your marriage, these are your advantages. Having achieved these shows that you can achieve the others.
Special considerations for creating a healthy family structure;
• Avoid frequent discussions. Being a constantly arguing and conflicted couple is tiring and exhausting. However, one of the spouses avoids discussing any existing problem and prefers to remain silent during the discussion. It's also wearing out.
• Send love messages to your cell phone.
• Have ten minutes to spare with your spouse each day.
• Do everything to support your spouse psychologically. Make sure you do something for your spouse.
• Invest in love and affection between you.
• Every marriage is unique and special. Never compare your marriage to someone else's marriage.
• Embrace the positive aspects of your relationship.
• Become friends with your spouse. Marriage is not the end of love, but the fact that couples have not succeeded in being friends with each other kills.
• Have a regular sex life. A well-functioning sexual life is binding on partners. Thus, spouses have the chance to renew the intimacy and love between them.
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