Every person lives for happiness and values, but not everyone's perspective on the world is the same. Let's think of your view of the world as a pair of sunglasses. If the lenses of your glasses are blue, you will see everything around you as blue, if they are yellow, you will see yellow, and if they are black, you will see everything around you as black. In other words, the glasses you wear are actually your perspective, the schemas that form your personality. Schemas are actually intellectual/emotional structures that your mind develops to achieve what you need. Like being loved, like being accepted. And each person's perspective and schemas are different. In other words, just because you look at the world with yellow glasses and see yellow does not mean that everyone else will see yellow.
Therefore, it is not right to react to other people's problems by saying "What is so sad about this?" To give a simple example, two people will have a panic attack. While one of them is not reaching that level, the other carries the belief in the depths of his/her mind that 'I could experience a medical disaster at any moment'. The person who carries this belief at a level ingrained in his personality becomes very sensitive to the signals coming from his body and frequently experiences anxiety problems. To give another example, let's imagine that two people took the same exam and both received the same low grade. One of them said, "I got a very bad grade, I am a failure, all the negativity finds me. While I have the thoughts that my life will always be like this, I will fail, the other one gets a bad grade." I got it, but that doesn't mean I will always fail. I will prepare better for the next exam and get a much better grade. Here we can see that both people interpret failure from different perspectives. While negative thoughts create anxiety in a person, these anxieties actually give us signals about events, and we want to escape and extinguish these anxiety-producing thoughts and situations. We take every thought very seriously, and if this thought is negative and judgmental, we act as the thought tells us and increase our anxiety. Sometimes it is necessary not to touch or interfere with the thoughts. It is necessary to watch the thoughts calmly from a distance. In fact, intervening in these negative thoughts is the way to trap the thought. It is nothing but being stuck.
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