The main purpose of emotions is to determine how we live, how we relate ourselves to life and how we relate to others. The decisions we make, the actions we take, the perceptions we create are constantly determined by emotions. One of the purposes of therapy sessions is to identify the person's emotions and to understand what they serve in that context. In terms of meaning, emotions are neither good nor bad. They are simply reactions triggered by many stimuli. They existed only for the purpose of connecting the person to life. It is the inference we make from emotions that determines our well-being and the way we put them into action.
Pride, shame, embarrassment, excitement, which are basic such as Happiness-Sadness, Confidence-Disgust, Fear-Anger, Surprise-Expectation and their interaction. There are more mixed and different depths of emotions such as For example, feelings of pleasure and trust create the feeling of love. Anger has different depths, such as anger and annoyance.
It is impossible to escape from negative emotions. But it has protective properties. For example, the feeling of anger over a relationship motivates the person to evaluate and determine a roadmap. Fear of the current or possible situation pushes the person to take precautions and make changes. Everyone experiences negative emotions from time to time. While they may be difficult to deal with, it is possible and can be accomplished by falling for it. Although it is very comforting to react with emotions and feelings immediately when we encounter a trigger, it does not solve the situation in the permanent term and can create other problems that need to be dealt with along the way. First of all, it is necessary to define the negative emotion, and it takes practice. It is necessary to focus on emotion and body reactions. For example, when you experience a negative emotion such as anger, "I get very angry when my son does not do his homework." Internal conversations like these prevent you from creating more negative thoughts, slow down your bodily reactions and allow you to recognize your emotion.
- Do not hide your feelings from yourself. Even if you don't have to tell people how you feel, don't suppress them. Naming your feelings and recognizing them, assuming they are not, then It's much healthier than having a blast.
- Know why you're feeling that way and the trigger for your feeling. "I'm feeling jealous right now because I saw a new lady on my wife's account.","I feel so angry right now because I can't deal with being expensive.","I'm angry with my parents because they've never been there for me."
- Don't blame it. Although we are exposed to many negative situations, everyone's comments on these situations are different. One of the people who are cursed may choose to attack, while the other may ignore it. We produce our own interpretations and create feelings from them. Our feelings just give us the message that something is wrong as thought.
- Accept your feelings and emotions as natural and understandable. Don't judge yourself and your feelings. It is quite expected that you will feel them. Naming and accepting them will pave the way for you to move forward with them and will allow you to save your energy for something positive. Don't burden yourself.
- Take action. Once you have processed your emotions, decide whether to express them. Sometimes just recognizing the emotion is enough, but sometimes expressing it is an option.
- Choose the best expressing emotion option. Decide whether you will engage in respectful and limited confrontation with the trigger, discuss the issue with a friend, or explore the issue through another activity.
- Learn to change your mood at some point, even if you don't feel ready. At some point you will want to switch from a negative mood to a positive mood or your negative mood will draw you in and make you feel worse. Even if you don't feel ready, try to find an activity that is suitable for you at the moment.
- Create positive emotions. It is unlikely that everything will be negative and bad all the time. Creating positive emotions and seeing the positive in events and situations requires action and practice rather than thought. It is necessary to realize the positive things in our lives, to grow and nurture them. Being able to do this even when feeling bad will change our emotional balance from negative to positive.
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