Antisocial Child

How can it be understood that a child is asocial?

Asocial is a name given to people who exhibit behaviors that non-social people would do. These people do not prefer to enter crowded places. Places where there are no quiet people are more preferred for them. They do not feel comfortable in crowds and may want to hide themselves. For this reason, they do not want to enter into society and stay away from such places. This situation can be seen as a person isolating himself from society. Asocial people may have difficulty adapting to their environment and empathizing.

In childhood, it is possible to observe symptoms such as difficulty playing with friends, tending to play games on one's own instead of joining children, and preferring individual games to plural games. Mood/structural disorders in childhood may also bring about asocial behavior, or structural disorders may be confused with asocial behavior. In such cases, getting expert support is important for early intervention.

Why do people become asocial?

According to a study conducted among asocial people;

• They were not loved by others in their childhood

• There were problems in their family relationships

• They often ran away from home Explanations have been reached stating that parental relationships and life conditions are effective in reaching this situation.

This is childhood. period family relationships are meaningful in terms of the difference between individuals who display asocial behavior and individuals who have easy social adaptation.

Is being an introvert and being asocial the same thing?

Introvert Although withdrawnness and asociality are not the same thing, we can describe them as two interrelated concepts. Being introverted is a personality trait, and being asocial is a form of behavior. Asocial behavior may be observed in a child with an introvert personality trait, but not every asocial individual may show introversion.

An asocial person can communicate in one-on-one relationships or in environments where he/she feels comfortable, but may have problems expressing himself/herself. He may not want to, but an individual with an introvert personality trait may have difficulty expressing himself, communicating, and developing relationships, even if he is in an environment where he feels comfortable. Introverted people may be more timid than extroverted people.

An asocial individual may not go out to play games with his friends because he prefers to read books or play on the computer at home, whereas in an introvert personality structure, he does not want to play games at home or play on the computer at home because he does not have the courage to play games outside. is a person who chooses to read books.

Shyness behavior is a phenomenon that can be observed developmentally in certain developmental stages and is expected in the social adaptation phase. Over time, it is expected that the child will notice strangers and as he develops his communication skills, the limits of this behavior will be determined specific to the social structure in which he grows up.

Firstly, around 8-9 months, the baby begins to be afraid of strangers. In human life, this is the first example of timidity. At this stage, the child distinguishes between strangers and acquaintances. Children aged 2-5 gradually begin to realize that they are individuals and have their own unique personality. They are often not shy towards strangers their age. However, shyness towards unfamiliar adults is most commonly seen in this age group. If they encounter an adult they know in an unexpected situation or environment, they may exhibit timid behavior. For example, a child who meets a nursery teacher in the market may hide behind his mother and not greet her, because for him the teacher's place is in the nursery. Primary school children understand individual differences and learn the rules of society. Shyness in the developmental stages will disappear spontaneously over time.

If the child speaks very easily with his/her relatives at home but does not speak at all in a certain environment such as school, there is a disorder in communication and social adaptation. A child with a disorder in social adaptation does not speak because he is extremely afraid of unfamiliar environments or strangers, that is, due to extreme timidity, and expresses his wishes through body language. Although it is usually evident in children between the ages of 3-5, it is more common in girls. These children have no problems with language development and are not depressed. If the child cannot get used to the environment for more than a month and refuses to talk, this problem will occur on its own. The problem does not go away and the longer you wait, the more serious the problem becomes; here the family must get help from a specialist.

Shyness due to developmental stages does not pose a problem most of the time. However, if the child is ashamed of the adults and peers he knows and avoids entering certain environments, if he cannot get used to it after a certain period of time, if (different) intense fears develop, if he cannot make friends or if he remains dependent on an only child, professional help should be taken seriously and sought. Otherwise, the child enters a vicious circle, cannot communicate, is excluded, cannot gain new experiences, his self-confidence decreases and he becomes even more timid. It begins to take shape in the direction of the personality type of behavior we describe as asocial.

What should be done to avoid being asocial? What are the duties of parents?

To eliminate asocial behavior or introversion. In order to raise awareness and support the person's social skills, the ground must be prepared for the person to socialize instead of spending time with himself. Peer relationships are important for children who display asocial behavior or are introverted.

It is not necessary to force the child into unwanted communication, but it is also important not to leave him to his own devices. The child can be given time to engage in social environments. The time allocated or given should not be less than 20 minutes, and should not exceed 2 hours during the adaptation phase. It is important to notify the child about the given time. “We will spend 30 minutes in this environment now. You can play games with your friends, teach them the games you have learned, or learn the games they know. This way, when we go home, you can teach me/your siblings too. “I wonder what they know?” Reducing the child's stress and guiding the child who is uneasy about how to start communication will be a good start for the child who does not know what to do. At the same time, since you will have expressed your interest, he will have a purpose and will contact you to learn a new game.

Going to the theater, cinema and doing sports together with the child are also effective in the social development of the individual. In this way, new friends can be made and the opportunity to socialize can be provided. Reducing the time spent in front of the computer The child's socialization and inclusion in society should be supported.

It should not be forgotten that the child's first social environment is his family. The first individuals the child communicates with is his family. Therefore, communication within the family, time spent with the child, effective communication, and social harmony are meaningful in terms of being extroverted individuals. Children who can easily express their wishes within the family, who are respected, who know that their wishes are taken into account, who are told where to speak and where to remain silent with expressions rather than with reactions, are the best way for children who grow up aware that they are listened to and that they are individuals, to grow up as healthy individuals without any deterioration in their social harmony and self-confidence development. This is the basic rule.

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