Did you know that you can communicate more successfully within the family by learning your love language?
Being a family is a special and sacred concept with its meaning, value, place in our lives and the way it makes us feel. However, for some reasons, problems within the family can wear people out from time to time. And the problems that cannot be solved within the family are so much a part of life that it is not possible to escape from this situation.
For this reason, it is very important to establish a good balance within the family and to solve the problems correctly.
Magic Concept! COMMUNICATION
One of the problems that we always encounter at the root of the problems experienced in the family is the inability to speak, the inability to listen, or the wrong way of speaking and listening, which we describe as communication disorders.
What we describe as correct communication. The way of speaking and listening expresses a mutual relationship. In other words, while a person is expressing himself, he should listen by focusing on truly understanding the other person. He/she should look into their eyes and use facial expressions to express that they understand without interrupting. He/she should never be interested in anything else - such as a mobile phone or computer. When there is a situation he does not understand, he should get answers by asking questions. The person who explains himself must be able to express his wishes, expectations and feelings clearly, without blaming the other person. Saying what is in your heart, rather than saying what the other person would like to hear, can create mutual and lasting happiness. Remember, your spouse, your child, your parents know and understand you with what you say and your expressions.
Communication with your spouse…
Our spouse is our source of strength in many situations, our every He is one of the people we expect to be around all the time, whose behavior and words are most important to us. However, it is our way of expressing ourselves that shapes his actions and words. That's why explaining yourself correctly plays an important role in communicating with your spouse.
After I say it, don't say what's the point!
Remember, people do not come into our lives with a user manual. Therefore, it would be meaningless in many cases to have expectations without expressing them and to feel upset in return. special days for you You should clearly state whether it is meaningful or not, whether you expect a gift or not, and how you like to be addressed. You can ask your partner questions to find out his expectations and try to get to know him better. And you can start by learning each other's "Love Language".
Which is your love language?
People's expectations are different from each other. The way they understand and feel love... We can express the behavior that people expect to hear from others in order to feel loved as "love language". We can examine the love language in five different categories.
- Affirming words
-Acts of service
-Receiving a gift
-Physical contact
-Quality time
Approving People with the love language of words expect their actions to be appreciated. If your spouse's love language is "Words of Affirmation", thanking him for taking out the garbage and telling him that you are happy because he handles the children very well will make him feel valuable and loved.
If the person whose love language is "Acts of Service", then he/she will take responsibility from the other person. Mitigating actions await. For a person with the "Acts of Service" love language, washing the car and preparing dinner will be happy actions.
Just "I Love You." If you express your love by saying, the person with this love language will say, "If you love me, then why don't you take on the task of cleaning up the house for once?" For these people, behaviors (actions), not words, are important.
A person with the love language of "Receiving Gifts" expects small surprises that are bought with him or her in mind. Even a pack of chocolates with a note written on it will make people in this group happy. If your spouse's love language is "Receiving Gifts", he/she will definitely want to be remembered on special occasions. For example, if you did not give him a gift on his birthday, it will be difficult for him to believe in your love.
If Physical Contact is in the love language, you will need to express your love by touching and hugging. These people ask, "If he loves me, then why doesn't he hug and kiss me?" You are likely to hear a sentence like this.
A person with the Love Language of Quality Time wants the other person to spare time for him/her. During this time, the other person's attention is entirely on himself. He waits for it to happen. It would be meaningful not to go out to dinner with the person who has this love language, but to chat throughout the meal, keep your phone off, and direct all your attention to that person. Otherwise, eating together will have no meaning other than meeting a physical need.
Now find your love language and express it to your family. For this, observe yourself and try to discover which situation makes you feel loved. Encourage them to ask other family members the same questions and find answers. You will see that once you find each other's love language, you will be able to communicate more easily.
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