Every person has innate urges and needs. These impulses and needs are an unchangeable rule in all human beings and are a part of our creation. While a baby gets the breast milk it needs for the growth of the body with the urge to suck, on the other hand, it also needs nutrition for the development of its soul. In a spiritual sense, human beings are born with a package of basic needs. There are four basic elements in this needs package. These; To be loved, valued, approved and appreciated. These needs of our soul are as necessary as our obligation to eat to live, from the moment we are born. Just as healthy and good nutrition as a child lays the foundations of physical health, meeting the needs of our soul are the most important factors that determine what our mental health will be like, the relationships we will establish in our adult lives, our choices and what kind of life awaits us.
So, who will meet these basic spiritual needs? Of course, this responsibility belongs to our parents who gave us birthbut do parents care about a child's mental health as much as their physical health? Or are these needs being realised? If you ask; Unfortunately, it is not always possible to say yes to the answer to this question. If our parents' basic spiritual needs were not met when they were children, they may be insufficient to recognize and meet these needs of their children.
If you ask, "What happens if the basic needs of the soul are not met?, then even if your body grows and becomes an adult, unfortunately, your soul cannot develop in harmony with your body and By remaining like a child waiting for its needs to be met, it continues this expectation throughout your life. Of course, mental health is not a concrete concept like physical health. In other words, we cannot hold our soul with our hands or see it with our eyes, like our body. However, our soul uses various intermediary ways to make its presence and health status felt and expresses itself through emotions, thoughts, behavior and body. If you have physical health problems that cannot be diagnosed, then your soul will provide you with what you need through your body. It means he is trying to explain his feelings. In your private relationships, if you have a constant expectation of being valued, loved, approved and appreciated by your partner, spouse or children and if you complain about not being met enough; this is the basic needs of your soul that were not met when you were a child It means you are trying to meet it within the relationships in your adult life. You probably unconsciously put your partner, spouse or children in the place of your parents. Even if you are an adult, your childish soul still demands the needs that your parents cannot meet, and unless you solve this situation, your search will last a lifetime. Almost always, these expectations cause trouble in your bilateral relations. Not only does your soul not get the needs it wants, it also complains to you on the other side that it cannot make you happy. In such situations, you often think of yourself as worthless, unloved, and unpreferred. While these thoughts make you feel sad and unhappy, they also negatively affect your life activities and reduce your enjoyment of life.
So, how can we overcome this situation? About ourselves The answer to every question exists in our own inner world. However, it is not possible to immediately find out the meaning, reasons and solutions of the situation we are in in our own inner world. This process; It requires us to take a journey into our inner world, identify the needs of our soul and create a road map to meet these needs.
But spiritual journeys are just like sailing a boat on the open seas. You never know when the sea will explode. A sudden storm may arise and you may have to struggle with giant waves and be harmed. Just as captains take with them a pilot who knows the way well during difficult sea voyages, you too can get help from a psychotherapist on your inner journey to find out in your own life story and inner world how to meet the needs of your soul.
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