Have you noticed lately that no one has any tolerance for anyone else? There is dissatisfaction in everyone, from seven to seventy. So, when and how did we get to this point? When did the subject of our conversations change, complaints about daily life, disappointment, unhappiness... No one knows when the thread got lost. How many people are satisfied with their lives? When I look around, I see the facial expressions of the drivers in traffic, the frowning eyebrows of people walking on the street, the sullen faces of the employees, the culture of greeting is slowly coming to an end, and most of the time you do not get a response when you greet. Forgetting to thank and apologize, yes, dissatisfaction begins to spread within ourselves like a disease.
I hear the words "We were happier before" very often. In the past, people were more friendly and lived in accordance with their customs and traditions. Didn't we learn the concept of neighborhood from ancient times? They don't say it for nothing, "Don't buy a house, buy a neighbor." How many people miss those times? Or how many people live the concept of social culture, which includes a sense of sincerity, knowing their next-door neighbor and greeting each other? A door opening in the morning with a sullen face, your neighbor running down the stairs...
I often witness; To those who complain that nothing I want is going well. Let's give an example: You love making surprises. Can you continue this behavior in the face of this attitude where you buy small gifts for your beloved family member, spouse or friend, and each time they react negatively to the gift you receive and show dissatisfaction? I think no, you will be discouraged. You may even think that he liked it very much at first, what happened now? What happened now? Desires have increased, we can't be happy with little things. That's exactly how life is. If you negatively accept the gift that life offers you, life will stop offering you its beauties. At first, you think a small house is enough. Then a car, then a bigger house, the latest model car, these wishes will never end. This is exactly what we call the life cycle. Everything has a consumption limit, but we will always be on the lookout for more. Yes, it must be quite annoying, so let's think about it together. How can we prevent this situation before we become increasingly alienated?
My first step is Should there be pure emotions? Yes, emotions that have not lost their sincerity. This is exactly what I want to point out; our emotions, what we feel. Knowing what you really feel will take you one step forward. Now you will say that a lot has changed. I agree, living conditions have changed, the social-economic order has become different, the struggle for survival has emerged, but the main source of dissatisfaction is our attitude towards life, rather than the negativities that life brings. The world consists of the reflections of us humans. Whatever you are, whatever your thoughts are, every situation you see around you is that way because you are that way. Unless you change, life will present the same events to you again and again with different people. Until you are satisfied with yourself, minimize your life expectations, smile at yourself and take steps. Let's not allow the emotions that make us who we are to be separated from us. Because emotion is one of the most important characteristics that humans have.
There is no life without problems, yes. There are enough things going wrong in this world. But don't live by conditioning yourself to this. When we look at the way of thinking, we can realize that the root of the problem is actually us. Our biggest problem is that we cannot define our emotions. Know that you cannot fight by showing yourself to be different than you are. Offer your positive thoughts to life despite life's setbacks. I'm sure one day life will get tired of fighting. Emotions may not feed your stomach, but they feed your soul and this is the biggest secret of success. According to researches; Happy people earn more money and are more successful in their work and social circles. Let's not make it difficult to be happy and smile.
We have become a community that creates chaos, from people bursting out of anger in their news bulletins to asking why there are eyebrows above their eyes. It's time to stop this. Our emotions are lost. Come on, help me, let's overcome something together. My suggestions for this are for all of us to implement.
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The first step in expressing our feelings starts with knowing your feelings well. For example, how do you feel your anger when you experience a negative situation? Some people feel their stomach tightening, some The heat makes your face red. Knowing these will guide you in the current situation. Ask yourself when you experience negative emotions and get angry. What other emotion could be underlying anger? Maybe you are just sad, maybe you have experienced something similar to what you experienced in your past, let's decide first whether it is fear or anger.
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The message you want to convey to the other person should be expressed in clear terms and in a way that the other person can understand. We must choose a form of expression.
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If the other person cannot maintain his/her calmness, your duty will be to talk when the environment calms down. Because explaining something to an angry person can tire you out.
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Prefer a cool and calm way of communication.
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At the point when you are not satisfied. Stop and think, why am I not happy? Is it from the person or the dissatisfaction you have created within yourself?
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Focus on solving problems rather than creating problems. And ensure this by TALKING.
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No one can act aggressively in public transportation and try to beat or kill because the car behind is coming too close to me or because they were criticized at work.
Even if you find it difficult to try to look at the tangible aspects of life, even if you say this is how life is, feed your soul first. Life is shaped according to your shaping. It is in your power to turn negativity such as anger management, dissatisfaction, intolerance and unhappiness into positive ones. Do yourself this favor. As a society, we may have a sensitive structure, and this sensitivity should also be preserved in human relations. Before I forget, I would like to add this; Be more generous with love, respect and compassion. Of course, there will be times when you do not receive your reward, but remember that you will feel purified and you will experience peace within yourself. Break your taboos!
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