One of the most common problems in children; SIBLING JEALOUSY!
*Actually, jealousy between siblings is natural when experienced in moderation. It is a beneficial and healthy state for children. Every child wants all the love and attention of his parents. He wants to be the most loved, the most cared for. This makes jealousy inevitable.
Each child, as a separate individual, has feelings such as selfishness, possessiveness, inability to share, the need for self-confidence, emulation, and can also be jealous...
*Actually, With jealousy, children face one of the realities of life. This means that he cannot have all the attention around him and all the advantages of life. Even though this is painful and difficult, it is a lesson for the child. Love will be shared, and as it is shared, it will not decrease
contrary to what you think.
Such normal family competition reduces childish self-centeredness and selfishness. Even though it is disturbing, it provides experience and ease of getting along with others.
Why Are Children Jealous?
• A child may show jealousy in some periods of his/her development. .
For example; A 3-year-old child has not yet learned to share his belongings, toys, food, and family.
He may become jealous when someone else has to use his belongings, and this is a natural situation.
• Sibling jealousy is usually noticeable in first children. The child, who is accustomed to the attention and love of his family, sees the new sibling as his rival.
The family should support the older child who thinks he will be left out of the picture.
• Deprive the child or fulfill everything he wants,give constant financial rewards. It also fuels jealousy.
Symptoms of Jealousy in Children!
•Jealous child shows restless behavior and suffers from insomnia. . He gets angry, cries and screams for simple reasons. Especially if the main theme of his life is jealousy, the child is in pain. He needs help.
• He wants to sleep with his parents.
• He tries to attract attention.
• He will start wetting the bed again, sucking his breast and fingers, and talking like a baby.
• He will talk to his little brother. may want to harm.
• Mother -constantly desires his father's love and attention.
Golden Rules to Prevent Jealousy in Children!
• Our aim should not be to completely eliminate the feeling of jealousy, but to reduce the situations that cause it and to investigate the reasons when it appears. .
• Let's not compare our children with others.
Let's treat children consistently in love, care and discipline, and avoid excessive demonstrations.
• Let's not make distinctions between children, such as big or young, boys or girls.
For example, let's offer the jealous older child to eat his brother's meal together. This way, he will not be neglected. • Let us know that a child who feels inadequate and worthless is easily caught up in jealousy. Children who love themselves and are at peace with themselves get along better with their siblings. Therefore, let's raise them as people with self-respect.
• If we are constantly turning towards a child, let's examine ourselves to discover the reason for this. Let's try to show interest and love to all of them.
• Let's not compare our children with their siblings. Such words are deadly poison to them. They increase jealousy, envy and inadequacy. They imprint on the child's thinking that he is inferior to someone else. Let's know that; Every child is unique and special. It is wrong to compare him with someone else.
• If possible, let's separate their rooms, if not, their corners and closets.
Let's dress them differently from each other.
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