The importance of researching our ancestors who lived hundreds, thousands of years ago in order to understand today's world is a fact accepted by everyone. So why don't we wonder about our own childhood, which is our ancestor as a human being, as much as we wonder about our ancestors as humanity?
Unfortunately, being a child is still underestimated in the world of us adults. We use words like "being like a child, childish, child's mind, childish actions". Could it be that underestimating our own childhood lies behind this behavior?
After the baby is born, it cannot fully learn to express its feelings with words until the age of 3-4. He learns a certain number of words, but his ability to express these words enough to represent his feelings has not yet developed. During this process, the part of the brain where emotions are located is more developed. For this reason, every baby or child has intense emotions that cannot be expressed. These feelings are not as constant as they are in adulthood. Their feelings towards parents and siblings often alternate between love and hate. As the child grows, he suppresses negative feelings towards his parents and siblings. Over time, he begins not to remember, but he never completely forgets; These are kept in the subconscious (unconscious) and affect the decisions we make, our personality, and our relationships throughout our lives, even if we are not aware of it.
When the baby is born, only 25% of the brain development is completed. A significant rate of 75% is completed thanks to the relationship with their parents, and this continues for many years. Therefore, our relationship with our parents covers a very large place in our lives. During our childhood, we learn many things from them, both positive and negative. All this continues until the age of 6. Especially after the age of 6, this information forms our relationship patterns and continues to influence us until the end of our lives.
When we think of our childhood, not many feelings, thoughts or memories come to our mind. All of these are in our unconscious and it is possible to reach them. With psychotherapy, the necessary memories can be accessed within a certain period of time. In this way, we can access the emotions of our childhood, save them from repressing them, and reduce their negative effects on our lives; We examine the relationship patterns we learned from our parents and solve the problems we experience in relationships. By gaining a different perspective, we can learn to build healthier relationships. However, our aim here is not to directly blame our parents while investigating these issues; Our aim is to examine the effects of knowingly or unknowingly exhibited behavior on a person, without blaming others, with the idea that everyone can make mistakes.
It is not necessary to experience a psychological disorder to conduct such a study with psychotherapy. There are many people who receive psychotherapy support in order to know themselves better without experiencing an illness, to look at their life from a different window, and to have a more fulfilling life in the future.
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