Modern life now pushes people to live in smaller spaces and become isolated. Families prefer to remain nuclear families. The hectic and busy business life, especially in metropolitan cities, has reduced people's meetings with their elders and relatives. Again, due to busy work lives, people try to take advantage of every opportunity to relax by taking a vacation. Eid visits began to give way to religious holidays. People's understanding of holiday has almost turned into an understanding of only sea, sand and sun.
The feature of holidays to bring people together, to reconcile, to bring people together and to share is being replaced by loneliness with modernization. As in every subject, learning about traditions and customs and the meaning of the holiday is learned through the role of parents as models. Modernization not only affects loneliness, but also affects children's knowledge and perceptions about the holiday. Eid, which means new clothes, shoes, pocket money, candy for children and kissing the hands of adults, now means going on vacation.
Digital world and virtual environment; Carefully selected greeting cards for family elders, relatives and friends have been replaced by messages sent from phones and computers. Instead of calling each other, people choose to reach many people with a single click. Fast and economical. However, cliché messages that lack warmth and care…
Parents working hard, coming home late and tired, having difficulty in setting rules and limits for their children, children's unlimited consumption habits, decreasing parent-child relationships lead children to individualism and It pushes you towards loneliness. Individuals who become lonely may experience depression and even suicide in later life. Research shows that people who have healthy family relationships, who meet with their relatives and who have a regular social life live longer and are healthier. Children living in these families grow up healthier with the model they see from their parents.
“Where are those old holidays?”
The question “where are those” that we encounter in written and visual media every holiday? Under the discourse of "old holidays", individualization along with modernization It lies in the loss of values as a result of e and selfishness. Changing living conditions and advancing technology also affect values and traditions.
As people become lonely, values such as cooperation, sharing, respect and tolerance begin to disappear. Loss of these values causes us to become intolerant and selfish, lacking love and respect, individually and socially. The selfishness of adults leads to children also becoming selfish and insensitive to the rights of others.
How are values learned?
Values such as cooperation, sharing, respect and tolerance. It is learned in social environments. The first social environment in a child's life is the family. Therefore, the child will learn these concepts by taking his parents as a model and imitating them. Values develop with the reactions and comments they receive from those around them as a result of behavior and attitudes along with modeling and imitation. In order to raise individuals who are fair, honest, love and respect people, and are tolerant towards others, parents must also adopt these values and reflect them in their lives.
Children learn best in a play environment. Games can also be used to teach values. Domestic style games, which we call dramatization games, teach the child individual and social roles on the one hand, and on the other hand, give information about the values adopted by the family. Reflecting these in the game teaches the child how to behave and react in which environments. Likewise, celebrations and the content of the holiday can be taught to the child through games.
Parents can pay attention to the following points about teaching values:
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Your purpose in being a parent and what is important for your family. Values form the values you will teach your child. You can write these down and share them with your spouse.
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You can examine your own behavior regarding the values that are important to you and determine whether you are the right model for your child.
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You can determine whether you are the right model for your child.
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You can talk to your child about the values you aim to impart to your child and why values are important.
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Child You can show how much you care about your children by listening to them and trying to understand what they say.
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You can talk to your child about the cartoons, commercials or computer games he plays. You can talk about what your child perceives from what he watches and whether it matches your values.
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You can limit television and computer use, and direct him to activities that you can do as a family or as a group instead of individual activities.
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You can give your child responsibilities appropriate to his age and skills, thus ensuring the development of his personal control.
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You can support and encourage every positive behavior you observe in your child.
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