Today, children often express love and talk to their friends or parents frequently. When a child says he likes someone, or expresses that he is going to get married, parents often do not know what to do and seek support.
Is there love in childhood? How should adults approach love?
Let children discover love
Children can show their sense of enjoyment by kissing their peers, making cards or notes, or even sharing their belongings. At the same time, when children like each other, they can sometimes express their feelings by pulling their hair or hitting their friends and running away. While sharing their feelings with their parents, they can say to them, “We are going to get married”. While early love makes children joyful, it may cause trauma to adults with their approaches. they can understand. They may perceive themselves as a girl or a boy and adopt a gender role. Again at an early age, under the influence of many psychosocial experiences, the target of sexual interest in children begins to take shape.
How do parents perceive children's interpretations of love?
Most of the time, children express this directly or indirectly. They can tell their parents, especially in the preschool period. In the primary education period, it is seen that they share with their friends more frequently. Sometimes they go straight to their ears, or write them on cards and give them.
How do guys experience love?
Boy "I fell in love", "we're dating" Or when he says "we will get married", maybe he doesn't feel any emotion towards the person in front of him, and he can explain some other things with this sentence. With such words, he can show that he has grown up and express his need for attention. Children can tell that they are in love for 3-5 days, show no interest in being in love, and even quickly forget who they like. Learn some Love behavior can be seen as an accomplished role. They often imitate their parents. Children with divorced/separated parents may think that they will experience the same thing, and may show more interest and expectation.
Children can show love in different ways. Every morning when he goes to school, he carefully fulfills some stereotypical behaviors brought about by the love affair with the person he says he is in love with, and then plays on his own in the rest of his time, acts with intense interest and effort to make the other person admire him. Children who behave in different ways can all reflect love differently.
Who do children fall in love with most of the time?
Children often fall in love with those in their own class. Sometimes they may fall in love with their mother, father, teacher, or another older person. They express this interest as “We are going to get married”. Along with the experiences and maturation of emotions over the years, love situations also develop gradually, starting from childhood, and are built on the foundations established in childhood.
Gender stereotypes should be paid attention to in childhood love.
When a boy is attracted to a girl in the class, the family tells others that she is "the most hardworking, hard-working girl in the class", while opposing the girl who expresses her love with sharp answers can be devastating for the child's future relationships. It is necessary to benefit from the candor of children in this period. Because while children can easily say whom they are interested in and whom they will marry in early childhood, the situation is completely different in adolescence. For this reason, these comments from childhood should be taken into consideration and supported.
What should families pay attention to?
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Little children use many Try to understand the concept of love in their world by wondering how they feel when they say “I fell in love” because they use it without knowing its meaning. tell about love by avoiding subjective interpretations before a perception is formed.
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Pay attention to the reaction given by thinking about the shame and guilt that the child may experience.
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Know that often a child's expression of love is temporary. If they experience this feeling excessively, their daily activities revolve around love, and they display exaggerated sexual roles compared to their peers, investigate the reasons, get support if necessary.
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Let them explore the field of love. Look from the outside as observer and listener. Don't judge. Avoid oppressive attitudes and behaviors.
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