Marriage is like a barometer of the quality of human life. The quality of your life can be understood by looking at your marriage. And in parallel, a good marriage is an excellent tool for protecting one's mental health. It serves as a harbor against a person's spiritual fluctuations, a mirror to help the person recognize himself, a lighthouse that informs his route when he is lost in life, and insurance against the spiritual traumas of his life that come unannounced.
For this reason, marriage is a spiritual need with many psychological functions. Even though one is the pillar of society, no one gets married to become a pillar of society. Everyone gets married to experience psychological satisfaction.
What is this satisfaction?
The proportion of girls who answered the question of what young people expect from the future by saying "happy marriage first" is 65%
The rate of men who answered the question of what young people expect from the future by saying "happy marriage first" is 59%
The rate of married women who say they are unhappy is 42.4%
- The motivation to be loved constantly
- The motivation to be accepted unconditionally
- The motivation to take responsibility
- The motivation to expand the boundaries of the Self
- The motivation to reduce sadness and increase happiness
There is no mechanism as functional as the family where these can be met.
A marriage without these is nothing but a burden for the person. It is also like an invitation to unhealthy mood and unhealthy generations. It is not easy to see another concept where the gap between good and bad is so wide. While “good marriage” is another world specially designed for you, designed according to your spiritual-emotional-physical characteristics, which opens brand new windows on life; “Bad marriage” is a chronic handcuff that ruins not only your job, your children, your social circle, but also your quality of life as a whole, locking you in life and destroying you in itself.
The difference between a good marriage and a bad marriage is “a good person”. It is not as clear as marriage with a “bad person”. Marriage is an institution in which you will live between two poles, depending on your ability to know marriage and decipher and treat your illnesses, regardless of the "good" or "bad" of the people in it.
For the first 2 years, you realize that there are illnesses. It is the time period you choose. After that, you either start treatment, or you make life a little more narrow for yourself, a little more unlivable day by day, or you seek new relationships within the relationship and call for some kind of help.
Endless fights, long periods of resentment, inability to integrate into the social environment, internal unrest, psychological or physical violence, apathy, inability to communicate, etc. These are some familiar wounds that bleed within marriage and grow as they bleed.
Yes, marriages sometimes bleed, but if the right intervention is made, people are made aware of their deadlocks, and the map of the way out is presented to them step by step, the gangrene marriage suddenly becomes the meaning of a whole life. may return. For this, you need to change your perspective on marriage rather than changing spouses, learn the rules of adapting to a new life form, and from time to time have enough insight to see your marriage in the mirror of a marriage therapist.
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