Lying is a behavior that aims to mislead the other person and give false information
. Children's lies are different from adult lies. Children's imagination is very intense until they reach school age. Especially until the age of 9, children cannot distinguish between right and wrong. For this reason
The child's fabrication of certain events, situations, and creation of imaginary friends should not be considered as lying
and should not be worried.
Human beings have three different worlds; Sleep and dream world, Dream world and real
world. No healthy adult tells something he dreams about as if it were real. But children in the first
9 years of age cannot distinguish these three worlds from each other. For them, the dream world is just like the real world.
Do not worry when your child hears exaggerated expressions before the age of 9.
Do not interrupt him and use words that indicate that he is lying.
In such a situation, the child learns the word lie, feels guilty, and
his imagination becomes limited over time. In this situation, it will be enough to listen to your child's exaggerated expressions without laughing or underestimating him. Because without play
and the world of imagination, a child is not a child and cannot develop himself.
If a child resorts to lying after the age of 9
There are many underlying reasons:
- Children who are subjected to psychological and physical violence or punished lie.
- Children from perfectionist families lie because they are afraid of making mistakes.
p>- Children who frequently face accountability situations become anxious, and this
anxiety creates lying behavior in the child.
- The child lies to avoid angering his parents and not making them unhappy
they tell.
- The child, faced with the thought of losing love, which usually occurs with sibling jealousy, lies.
In such a situation, the family lies. What should be done?
If the parents notice the situation and punish the child by saying 'I caught him lying', the lying behavior in the child will not be extinguished. On the contrary, next time the child e
He tries to find a smarter lie to avoid getting caught, then lying
it becomes a habit for the child and he/she gains mastery in lying.
Be a model for your child to tell the truth and Avoid little white lies
. Appreciate him when he tells the truth. For example; Praise your child for his courage when he tells you the result he got, even though he got a bad grade on the exam.
Most importantly
Find out what the anxiety and pressure is that causes the child to lie and try to eliminate it
. The most important thing for a child to be able to tell the truth in every situation is 'trust'. The more sure the child is that he will not be harmed by his parents no matter what, the less likely he is to lie.
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