When Selçuk was six years old, a sibling named Yıldız was born. His mother, Öznur Hanım, is a nurse and his father, Nevzat Bey, is a teacher. Yıldız's birth changed many things in the family. Ms. Öznur has to go back and forth between work and home, and does everything she can to fully meet her daughter's needs. That tiny baby's only connection with the outside world is his mother. He would quickly find out the reason for her crying; if she was crying because she was hungry, he would feed her; if she was crying because of insomnia, he would put her to sleep; he would always try to please her.
Years passed. The star was now four years old. His cuteness was enough for him to get anything. He was staying with his aunt while his mother was at work. His parents' return from work was like a holiday for him. He was a child who was extremely dependent on his mother. Spending time with her mother was her greatest happiness.
On another day like this, Ms. Öznur returned home, feeling bored, and started telling her husband about the incident. He had to be out of town for six months for in-service training. If he didn't go, there was a high chance he would be fired. His mother's departure wouldn't change much in Selçuk's life. After all, he was now a big young man attending the fourth grade of primary school at the school where his father worked. However, Yıldız was only four years old and needed her mother more than her brother. Where would the children stay in their mother's absence? This situation, which was thought about for days, was finally resolved. Selçuk will stay at home with his father; Yıldız was to be taken to her grandmother in Edirne.
That weekend, Yıldız was left to her grandmother. Her parents would go to see their daughter from time to time, but they could not be with her all the time. Food was eaten and conversations were had. Now it was time to go. Her grandmother took the little girl to the neighbor. Her mother, father and brother also returned to their home. When Yıldız returned home, the house was empty, she was just wondering about something and crying loudly. All she wanted to know was where her mother was. She looked everywhere but couldn't find anyone. They couldn't have gotten fed up with him and left. If he cried, they would definitely come to get him. All their expectations were aimed at getting the mother back. The grandmother was helpless, no matter what she did, she could not silence her grandson, all her attempts were unsuccessful. It gave ineffective results. He was crying louder and louder and throwing himself on the ground. This continued like this for a week. Yıldız was crying almost constantly, only remaining silent while sleeping.
The little girl was becoming more and more desperate as time went by. She thought she would never see her mother again. She was helpless, she wasn't laughing, she wasn't playing, she was just eating when her grandmother forced her to. When he saw the photos of his parents, he would say "mother" and frown. His sleep was irregular. He was extremely secretive. She didn't want anyone to take care of her and believed that she was rejected by her family.
About a month later, the grandmother noticed that Yıldız had a large swelling behind her ear. In order not to alarm her daughter, she took Yıldız to a doctor without telling them about the situation. However, the medications given did not work; on the contrary, the swelling was getting bigger and bigger. The grandmother had to desperately call her daughter and inform her of the situation. Ms. Öznur ran to her daughter in tears. It was all his fault. I shouldn't have been separated from my daughter, even for work, she thought. Yıldız was so angry at her mother that she never looked at her face and acted as if she didn't exist. When her mother wanted to hug her, she was crying and never allowed it.
The worried family took Yıldız to a research hospital. A biopsy was performed here. As a result of the evaluations, this swelling; It was explained as an expression of the sadness of being separated from the mother, and the family was told that their daughter was depressed. Ms. Öznur was very regretful, she would never leave her daughter again at any cost.
How Could a Four-Year-Old Child Become Depressed?
However, depression, which is predominantly known as an adult disorder, affects children between the ages of 4 and 11, and even It can be seen even in babies. Reluctance to play, sleep and eating problems, hopelessness, decreased interest in normal activities, lack of energy, social isolation, lack of communication, lack of self-esteem are typical symptoms of childhood depression.
Just like Yıldız's treatment Medication and psychotherapy, or both forms of treatment together, are effective in treating childhood depression.
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