As in most societies and cultures, marriage is a condition for the formation of a family in Turkish society. That's why the concepts of marriage and family are inseparable like flesh and bones.
Marriage; It is a contract that creates the family, a kind of contract, a legal relationship that binds husband and wife together, provides status for future children, legitimizes sexuality between spouses, has a history of 4000 years, and is under the rights and authority of the state.
Family: Different. It is the smallest social structure that is formed based on a marriage relationship between two people who have different personality traits coming from their social and cultural structure, and has its own communication styles, roles, problem-solving methods and rules within this relationship.
Other structures put forward by people. Just like in marriage, there may be aspects of your marriage that weaken and falter over time and need to be strengthened and repaired.
Spouses learn marriage by trial and error because there is no known school for this business. There are no general truths or information for each family because each family is unique. Their cultures, beliefs and languages are different. There are many truths on the way to a solution, the important thing is to draw together the most appropriate road map for couples.
Families and couples mostly come to family counselors when they think their communication and problem-solving skills are insufficient. The fact that what one spouse expresses is perceived differently by the other spouse can lead even a small, solvable problem to a dead end.
Individuals in the family want to be listened to, understood, receive support and closeness after meeting their basic needs, so being insufficient in communication or problem solving makes the marriage difficult. It can put you in serious danger.
Problems related to children, cheating, roles, mother-in-law (relative), and sexual problems are among the reasons that bring people to counselors.
Successful success of individuals, families, and couples. In order to undergo a psychological counseling process, they must first know where they want to reach, express their expectations realistically, and have sufficient belief and desire to achieve this. Every person is unique, therefore the solution is unique to each person. Achieving even a small success is more difficult for people, ask another question. It makes you believe that you can solve these problems.
Recommendations for Families
-
First of all, one should be generous with love and compassion,
-
They should express themselves about the things they like or dislike.
-
They should not neglect their own families, (especially their parents)
-
They should keep their sexual life alive.
-
They should be aware that they are a family and fulfill their individual responsibilities,
-
They should attach importance to social relations. .
-
They should be realistic, not dreamers
-
They should establish a good balance of I-you-we,
We should not destroy me, and I should not destroy we.
-
First, the individual should be happy.
-
It should not be forgotten that happy individuals form the basis of a happy marriage.
-
Individual and together times should be planned well.
In fairy tales and movies, the main heroes, the man and the woman, meet each other, get married and live happily ever after. In real life, we see more clearly that this is not the case, with the increase in divorce rates.
Read: 0
