People have always lived in colonies since ancient times and have not been able to solve problems alone. In fact, although this seems very normal today, when the side of love and relationships comes into play, we see that this is not the case. Because today's relationships, on the contrary, inflict the greatest punishment on each other by using isolation and devaluation.
'Loneliness' is the worst feeling that human beings have feared and avoided since the hunting and gathering period. Another feeling that continues with this is:
I can say that 'being isolated' is the most frightening and most vulnerable moment for a person. Even the feeling of experiencing this within yourself makes you depressed. Imagine that you are alone, alone, and no one understands or can understand what you mean. I think this is felt most by people on their special days. Or so one feels. The subsequent feeling of helplessness can cause mild, moderate or severe depression.
So what should we do to avoid falling into loneliness depression?
Talking with our Inner Voice: First of all, loneliness is an abstract concept and it is our own inner voice that makes us feel this concept. We need to talk a lot with our inner voice and inform it about this issue. Because one of the questions I frequently receive from social media is that feeling alone in crowds has become increasingly common. It is our inner voice that inevitably makes us think like this. It is our inner voice that will get us back on our feet again. Because during this period, the person becomes angry not only with those around him but also with himself. Then, the thing that will enable us to stand up again will be to sign an eternal peace with ourselves.
Stop Blaming Yourself: “Why are all the women moving away from me? Or why are all the men avoiding me?” While searching for answers to their questions, sometimes people throw themselves at the bottom of an endless and vast cave and shackle themselves there. In fact, no one is moving away or running away from you. Maybe they're not your type of person. Or maybe it's not the person you had in mind, you spent some time with it, then you realized it couldn't be there and you rejected it. Then, blaming yourself in a "because of me" way is what you do to yourself. I think this is the greatest injustice. People are mostly unfair to themselves. While they are very forgiving and merciful to others, they are very unfair to themselves.
Another mistake in thinking is those who console themselves by saying that loneliness is the most beautiful thing. Although it is not right to say this for everyone, as I mentioned at the beginning, humans are creatures that always want to communicate with others. This has always been the case and will continue to be so. One of the things you should do when you are alone or feeling like this is to ask questions. But a correct and appropriate question will always give you the necessary and desired answer. We can list these questions as follows:
How does it make me feel to be alone and do nothing?
Could I be happy if I were out with my friends?
Could I be happy at this hour of someone's life? What could having him with me give me more than what I couldn't give myself?
With these 3 simple questions, you can understand the situation you are in and at this point, you can understand your desire to be truly alone and your satisfaction as a result.
But most importantly?
May you have a bright life where you will appreciate the people around you and especially your own value
With love..
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