The most important feature of healing relationships is that they include 'unconditional acceptance'. Whether it is a parent-child relationship or a romantic relationship...
What is Unconditional Acceptance?
It means accepting an individual as he is, by respecting his existence, without changing, criticizing or despising him. Unconditional acceptance is the first condition of love. Love that does not include unconditional acceptance is not love. The most important aspect of love being healing for the human soul is that it includes unconditional acceptance. Well, let's look at what happens if there is no unconditional acceptance in relationships;
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The person begins to question his own existence because he is not accepted as he is.
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What he does and what he does. He feels guilty for the actions he did not take.
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He loses faith in himself.
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He starts to dislike himself.
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His self-confidence collapses.
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He loses faith in people.
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He cannot create a safe space.
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He cannot receive and give love, he cannot learn the true meaning of love.
In parent-child relationships where there is no unconditional acceptance, these factors are much deeper and deeper. It could be hurtful. In a normal partner relationship, even if one of the parties gets pulled into this trap over time, they should end the relationship as soon as they realize it. Often, romantic relationships can begin with choices aimed at repeating childhood wounds. The compulsion to repeat traumas chooses people who will make the person experience similar, sometimes even the same, traumas he experienced in childhood. Therefore, if a person has not received unconditional acceptance in childhood, he will not know what it means to accept himself and others unconditionally. A relationship without unconditional acceptance causes illness in the soul. The soul gets sick over time and tries to explain itself through symptoms. Let's see what these symptoms might be;
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OCD
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Anxiety disorder
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Phobias
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Depression
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Skin diseases
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Sleep disorders
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Other psychological problems with psychogenic sub-origins
The most basic of the psychogenic problems I have listed above Therein lies the diseased parent-child relationship. It is the relationship itself that makes people sick and heals them. Conditional acceptance causes a person to present himself as he should be, not as he is. If there is a deep difference between these two, this means the person's spiritual collapse. Over time, the person internalizes the spiritual responses acquired in the relationship and acquires a sense of self. So, it is quite difficult for him to accept himself as he is. This is exactly the basis of spiritual conflicts.
What situations must occur for spirituality to heal?
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Romantic relationship that offers unconditional acceptance to the person in adulthood.
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Therapy process
Healing can occur when a person finds a partner who accepts and loves him/her unconditionally in adulthood, but if he/she has not had such a chance, a psychotherapy process that accepts the person unconditionally and approves his/her entire existence without judging or humiliating opens the doors of the person's new life.
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