While women today take on important roles both at home and in business life, this situation also brings with it great responsibilities. Women may experience problems such as "not being able to get anywhere and not being enough for anything" due to their roles in their lives. The "super mother" model on social media pushes women to feel guilty. All mothers make mistakes in child care. All mothers have terrible days. No mother is happy being a mother all the time. But social media causes such a misperception in people.
Every year, March 8 is celebrated as International Women's Day.
The conditions of a woman who is a mother with another employee. It can't be the same
You know, there was a song called 'I can have children and a career'. This song is both right and wrong. Because a woman can progress while being a mother and having a career by getting help in both areas. However, assistance systems are often inadequate. For example, workplaces ignore the situation of mothers and expect them to perform at the same hours and at the same level as other employees. In this case, either motherhood is damaged or work performance decreases. However, a woman who is a mother cannot have the same conditions as another employee.
Don't be misled by the "super moms" on social media!
All mothers make mistakes in child care. All mothers have terrible days. No mother is happy being a mother all the time. But social media causes such a misperception in people. Women are also drowning in feelings of guilt while trying to be that 'super mother'. Not only career and motherhood are emphasized, but also things such as having an ideal body size and being well-groomed. Women are in a rush as if they will be left out of society if they do not fit those pictures, and as a result, they become exhausted.
The idea of perfection causes inadequacy in the person
We experience such a thing as perfection. Since it does not exist in the world, that is, it is something unreal, the person has a constant thought of inadequacy. The person constantly experiences performance anxiety. He sets strict rules for himself and punishes himself. He imposes the same rules and punishes those around him. As a result, he cannot be satisfied with himself or others and feels restless. ayat lives on. Imagine that you are climbing a staircase and it is said that you will drink water at the end of 12 steps, but when you reach 12, they say water is at the 13th step, when you reach 13, it is 14, and therefore, just when you think you will quench your thirst, you keep going up but you cannot drink water. But there, on the 14th floor, someone says, 'Come here, I'll give you two glasses of water; But you will go down from here or you will go up without knowing which floor you will drink water from. The problem of a perfectionist is similar to this.
Love yourself as you are
Perfectionist people are interested in diversity in life, compare themselves not only with those above them but also with those below them, and look at the consequences of not being perfect. It may be good for them to accept and love themselves as they are, sometimes to deliberately turn to imperfections, and even to try to see that the real beauty lies in the imperfections. If this balance cannot be achieved; Anxiety disorders, depression, fibromyalgia, burnout syndrome, alcohol and substance use problems may occur.
“The woman should know that she cannot afford everything”
In maintaining this balance Women should see their own resources and set their expectations realistically. He should look at his priorities.
For example; If being with her child is her priority, she should risk delaying her career. Or sometimes, if being like a helicopter around your child harms the child, he should focus on other areas of his life. The woman should know that she cannot afford everything. Women should not sacrifice their own needs. Excessive self-sacrifice will ultimately cause the woman's unhappiness. The woman; Meeting his needs for shelter, being loved, sexuality, friendship, rest and entertainment forms the basis of his love and respect for himself. Mental and physical diseases will occur in women who cannot afford or want these. Woman; He should not forget that he does not have to make everyone happy, that he does not have to feed everyone, that those around him should make sacrifices as much as he does himself, and that he should not see himself as inadequate or unsuccessful because he asks for help from others.
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