In early childhood (0-2), the role of the outside world and early objects is undeniable. Our expectant mothers undoubtedly know that the healthiest food source for your baby in terms of nutrition is breast milk. > Sexual life begins with the baby sucking the breast, the breast is a unique source of pleasure for the child.
Sucking is the first object of sexual impulse. And the initial object selection is very important for subsequent object selections. When you observe children, you will see that after the sucking action is finished, they suck another part of their body; such as tongue sucking, lips or thumb.
So the object has existed in the human world from the beginning. Breast, bottle, wet nurse, the child's satisfaction all depends on an object. The child is healthy as long as he is fed with a real object. If it is taken away from him without being replaced by someone else, he becomes ill. Like abandonment. A person, who initially has to depend on an object in order to survive, tries to get rid of dependence on the object in the later stages of life.
A person tries to become independent from the outside world in order to get pleasure, so he pushes the limits.
Breast sucking is important for the baby's bond with the world. To understand this, we need to talk about a short phase in which newborn children position themselves entirely on their own existence. This stage is the stage of primary narcissism. At that time when he believed that the whole world was under his rule; When he is hungry, he wants the breast, he wants the breast…
The baby thinks that he created all these objects. A good enough mother is the one who can read the baby's impulses and emotions. She understands what her baby needs and responds accordingly at the right time. Trying to put a crying baby to sleep because he is hungry means that the baby's message is misperceived. Since the baby's needs are not met, he cannot connect safely to himself and the world.
The baby's window to the outside world are the people who give him the first care. The mother, father or caregiver must read the baby's messages correctly and meet his needs in a timely manner. A. Otherwise, there can be no question of secure attachment.
As can be seen, what you offer and teach your child in the first phase of his life, who will predict his life by looking at the road map he draws with the knowledge he has acquired throughout his life, is important.
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