February 14 is celebrated as Valentine's Day all over the world. For some, February 14 is a romantic getaway; Eating by candlelight, music in the background, meticulous appearance, holding hands, for some it is a rush to buy a special gift, for others it is a great opportunity for reconciliation or a marriage proposal. So what does February 14 mean for married couples? What is marriage like? What are the expectations? And most importantly, does marriage really kill love?
We all want to be loved, approved and protected. We also expect this wish to come true consistently. Marriage is an elevation in status that is supported by society. When a person gets married, he declares that he has grown up and is an independent individual. This institution also has the advantage of having children. However, marriage is not so simple that it can be reduced to a signature. There are some key points for a happy marriage.
People fall in love, dream and get married. As time progresses, both men and women go through a series of changes. The needs, wishes and expectations of both parties may change and differ. The balance in marriage is constantly disrupted. Being able to adapt to the new situation without getting stuck in the problem makes the relationship stronger and healthier. The important thing is to be able to restructure during these ordinary shocks. Some common problems that can put marriages in trouble can be listed as follows:
Most of the time, spouses do not talk openly and clearly with each other about their needs, wants and expectations. “If my partner truly loves me, he already knows what I want and need to be happy.” This way of thinking only increases the emotional distance between spouses. Remember, no one has the ability to read minds. Couples who talk to each other on the basis of open, sincere and honest communication take a big step towards saving the relationship from monotony and problems. Never stop expressing to your spouse that you love him/her with words and actions. Loving and knowing that you are loved is a primary need for everyone.
Another important point that can cause problems is trying to change the other person. Not content with this, we secretly expect our spouse to like this change. trace. It is unrealistic to think that you can change your partner by constantly expressing his inadequacies, shortcomings and mistakes. Problems arise not from differences, but from trying to close these differences. The important thing is to accept the differences and make small changes in behavior. If you focus on what your partner adds to your relationship, rather than what he doesn't, difficulties can be overcome more easily. The speaking style and tone used in arguments that may occur from time to time in every relationship is critical to solving the problem. So how you say it is more important than what you say.
Marriage is a scale. Sometimes the woman and sometimes the man may be more dominant or giving in the relationship. “Who does more in this marriage?” Questioning in this form is to ignore the constantly changing balances for different reasons. In some cases, it is necessary for spouses to step up to each other or step back a little in order to balance the marriage. Marriage is a team game.
February 14 may be an opportunity to accept your partner with all his positive and negative aspects, to share your expectations from him and your relationship openly and honestly, and perhaps to prepare that romantic environment that you have been neglecting for a while. Relationships can be repaired and monotony can be removed. Who knows, maybe this February 14th is an opportunity for your marriage. Happy valentine's day.
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