Modelling is one of the ways to learn. The child can learn only through modeling or by looking at both the words and behaviors of the person he takes as a model. Consistency of behavior and discourse is important for the child to internalize the correct behavior. In fact, the same is true for adults. Wouldn't you feel a contradiction if your spouse or friends behaved differently from what they said? You have to believe one of the behaviors or statements. The same is true for children. It is even more critical because the child is a master at copying behavior and you do not even notice.
The father gives his advice to the child about the importance of homework or studying. Then, if the child whines about the work he should do at work but is unnecessary in his opinion, he may learn that doing homework is an activity that can be whined about. Or a mother tells her child that she should read a book in the evening, but she turns in front of the television so as not to miss the TV series she is following. In both cases, the words and behaviors of the mother and father are different. The child generally looks at the behavior and takes as an example the behavior that is actually undesirable but easy to do. Because the mother and father are models for the child. If you want to instill a behavior in your child or change a behavior in your child, you must first do that behavior and be the right model.
Children now access information more quickly. The number of stimuli around them is very high, so we must be more careful in what we say and do around children. Especially in the preoperational period between the ages of 2-7, since children cannot think about the abstract dimensions of behavior like us, they tend to copy the behavior directly.
The child wants to see the behavior he/she needs to do from you first. Since you cannot think abstractly, you cannot explain all behaviors concretely. So, can you make your child do the behavior you want, even if you don't? This is of course possible, but this way the child will not internalize the behavior, he will do it because he is afraid of you or the authority figure in the environment or to avoid feeling guilty. If the authority figure is in the environment, the behavior will occur, otherwise the behavior will occur. �mez. If the behavior is internalized, the behavior will be done if it needs to be done, whether you are present or not. In fact, this is what families want: "He should do the things he needs to do even when I'm not at home or away from him."
As a result, we can say this. Whatever you do, your child will do. It does what you do the same way you do it. He solves your problems the same way you solve them. Therefore, if you want to create behavior or values in your child, you must first do these yourself and set an example for your child.
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