Dear readers, every person has to get the five basic elements of love from their parents in order to survive, feel safe, and be self-sufficient in childhood. These five items are; to be taken into account by their parents, that is, to be accepted, to be loved, to be appreciated, to have compassion and to be able to express oneself comfortably. When people get their needs incompletely, they begin to have schemas that will negatively affect their life. He thinks that the decision he made was wrong, he wants to get the approval of the people he considers important when deciding on something. She experiences helplessness and anxiety when asked to make a sudden decision in an unexpected situation. Sometimes people cannot start a business alone.
The basic idea of the addiction scheme is; “I am incompetent so I need approval and support from others. I cannot act alone”. Therefore, when given an additional performance task by his boss at work, he panics and tries hard not to take responsibility. He gives up easily when he has the slightest frustration at work or when things go wrong. Has difficulty regulating their emotions and calming down and thinking logically. He needs the approval of people he sees as smarter and more successful than himself in his work and
private life. When he makes a mistake, he magnifies it, gets disappointed quickly, and when he is successful, he thinks, "What's wrong with this, everyone can accomplish this task, this job was already very easy". .
If a person has a dependency and inadequacy schema, he chooses people with a strong, dominant character as a spouse in his life due to the chemistry of the schema. People who can protect themselves are more attractive to him.
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