Parents want to raise their children in the best and most beautiful way. Because your child is special and exists as your creation. In addition to meeting your child's physiological needs, emotional satisfaction and correct communication are also of great importance. Even though you try to do everything according to the book in the beginning, after a point it may become difficult to keep up with the developments in your own life and pay attention to your every behavior towards your child. At some point, you may have started to think that things have become more complicated.
Parents contribute to the child's development by conveying what they know to be true. However, what the parent thinks is true may have negative effects on the child and affect his or her development.
One of the basic steps of the child's development process is learning. They want to know everything they see and hear, and they seek help from their parents as their first teachers. The words you choose when communicating with your child, the way you speak to him or her in the face of a situation or event, and your sentences may have different results than you think. A word may have formed the basis of an attitude or behavior you will encounter years later. For this reason, there are some points you should pay attention to when communicating with your child.
For example, using sentences that will cause excessive stress, such as making fun of the child's appearance, calling him names, threatening him, will negatively affect your child's development. Additionally, adjectives that label the child are also harmful. When you say "This child is very disrespectful", the child's development actually tends towards the adjective you choose, and you contribute to the development of this trait in your child. Making sentences that will make your child think that he/she is not loved (I have work to do now, go away), that will break his/her self-confidence (I knew you couldn't do this or you couldn't do this), or that will make you think that you are not loved (your friend is smarter than you) has the power to negatively affect your child's development.
Not only negative sentences, but also positive sentences can have negative consequences on your child's development. For example, the sentence "My child can do anything", It takes away your child's right to do or not make mistakes. Remember, he is a child, he will make mistakes when the time comes, and he will make mistakes when the time comes. You can't expect him to always do the right thing like an adult, but even as adults, we can't always make the right decisions.
Try to establish healthy communication with your child, remembering that he is a child. Be there when he needs it, but also give him the solitude he needs to be an individual. This way, you can get through this difficult task correctly and successfully.
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