If we try to define love, although the opposite sex comes to our mind first, love is a mood independent of the mind and more related to feelings. It is a concept.
If the secret of a happy marriage is love, the action to be taken for its continuation can be continued by protecting the existing love. Protection is a reasonable action. First of all, where does love begin? Is it a situation that increases or decreases later? If we call it love, could the place of love be about acting a little more rationally? First of all, it is possible that the process that starts with liking can be replaced by love. Although it is related to the mutual behavior patterns and attitudes of these people over time, it can also be replaced by love in the process of recognition and understanding after liking. Although it seems a complicated situation, the emotional state that starts with love and passion may go towards decreasing, love continues with love. Situations of discovery of a person may turn into a risky relationship as the process of getting to know and understand the person continues, for example, witnessing the pathological behavior of the person you are passionately attached to, the decrease in the initial sensitivities in the relationship, the discovery plus experience may enrich your journey, although this may seem like a trauma, we can also think of it as the enrichment of your foresight and insight attitude in the pathological behaviors you may encounter. After years, the relationship may either become inextricable or trust may be questionable. People insulting each other is the last point that can be reached. Intense emotions may give way to unpleasant words. The most important point in marriages may be this: If we call the transfer of passionately intense emotion as love, we can at least rationalize it. We can find an alternative way, the person in love can become madly passionate, the person can abandon his own interests. Reasoning and emotions have become secondary and come to the fore. This situation can lead to situations such as being vulnerable to infection and exposure. If control is needed, over time, we can understand that this is a matter of the mind. At first, the emotional state felt with intense energy, synthesis, judgment, while there is no selectivity, consciousness can remind us that these should be. true love or Those who experience it may be those who experience it for the first time. The soul expresses itself more clearly. It is difficult for people with depression to experience true love. Depression can lead to wrong orientations by disrupting healthy thinking and judgment, and secret depression also leads to such situations.
Another issue in marriages or relationships is that in relationships that start with love and passion, whichever side melts the ego may be subjected to emotional abuse, the person he/she idealizes may be disappointed, this may turn into anger, and in order to continue, these situations must be realized. Then, the silent waiting can continue and better recognition and understanding processes can be tried. Love can leave you defenseless, it can become worthless after the whole mystery is shared, questioning the relationship, fantasies can be tried in terms of behavior, it can drag the relationship that started like magic to the point of termination, people may become unable to manage this emotional state that starts with strange energy, at least preserving the passion, not consuming shares but reinforcing them with behavior from time to time, not constantly expressing the mystery. We can ensure continuity by preserving passion by sharing less of our insight, our identity, the characteristics that make us who we are, our codes.
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