Successful resolution of interpersonal problems requires people to get rid of stereotypes that limit their thoughts
and address them from different perspectives. In order to approach problems from
different perspectives, it is inevitable for us to be an active listener.
In order to find solutions to interpersonal problems that will benefit everyone, problems must be examined from as many different
angles as possible. First of all, after determining the conflict situation, people's perceptions of the event and how they interpret this situation are of great importance.
To give children a different perspective and develop empathetic ways of thinking through dialogues based on children's favorite
fairy tales and jokes. can be transferred and developed. Fairy tales transmit the ways of thinking about interpersonal relations, morality and values, and the common thoughts of the society from generation to generation.
As you know, in fairy tales, there are always good and always bad characters, one is pure and the other is cunning, one is right and the other is wrong.
. In conflicts, children always blame the bad and see the good as the absolute good that develops solutions
. It is a very wrong attitude to define the situation from the perspective of only one of the parties (only the good) in the problems we encounter. It will be more beneficial to listen to both parties and define the events and enrich the solutions with different perspectives.
Now, from this point of view, we can retell the joke where Nasreddin Hodja throws yeast into the lake and says "what if it works"
Let's examine it. So far, we have heard the story of the incident in the anecdote narrated by the person who met Nasreddin Hodja on the shore of the lake. Now let's hear it from Hodja himself;
''That day, I had shopped at the market and was returning home. I stopped by the lake on the way to rest a little and have something to eat. I had some bread and yoghurt with me. When I finished eating, I couldn't leave the yoghurt bowl like that
. I thought I would at least rinse it with water. While I was rinsing the yoghurt container in the lake, this
man came. He greeted me and asked, "What are you doing, Hodja Effendi?" I'm used to people asking meaningless questions
You know that sometimes I can't help but make fun of such people, even though I'm good at it.
You know, when you walk in the door and they ask a ridiculous question, "Oh, are you here?" This is the question of this man
. Don't you see, man, I'm washing the yoghurt dishes. Anyway, in order not to say anything that would hurt the man, I said, "I'm playing for the lake." Look at the naivety of the man, wouldn't he say, "Does the teacher keep the lake?" I don't know what you would say, but I said "what if it works" in order to get this man away from me as soon as possible. He walked away confused. When he arrived at the village, he gossiped to everyone, saying, "Hodja is stealing yeast into the lake." br /> So, what message did you get now?
Share the event with your child during tea time at home and discuss what else looking at events from different perspectives
can give us.
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