The "mother", the first person a child establishes a relationship with when he or she is born, determines the direction of the new relationships the child will establish in later life. A person who establishes a safe, loving and respectful relationship with his mother grows up as a psychologically healthier individual. In order for children to become self-sufficient, safe and spiritually healthy individuals, they need to grow up in a peaceful family environment. In the mother-child relationship, love, compassion and trust must first be established, and then limits and rules must be imposed.
The mother-child relationship determines the quality of new relationships
When a child is born, the first person he establishes a relationship with is his mother or his caregiver. A healthy mother-child relationship is very important for the quality of the new relationships the child will establish in later life. A person who establishes a safe, love- and respect-based relationship with his mother becomes a psychologically healthier individual.
In order for children to become self-sufficient, safe and spiritually healthy individuals, they need to grow up in a peaceful family environment and receive sufficient love from their mothers and fathers. They need to receive compassion and care, and learn that there are certain limits and rules in life.
Relationships; It should be based on love, compassion and trust
Meeting the needs of the baby in the first year after birth and raising it with love and attention ensures the development of a basic sense of trust in the child. Not only their physical needs should be met, but also love and affection should be shown.
It has been shown that the language, cognitive and social skills of the babies of mothers who establish a relationship by talking to their babies from the moment they are born develop better. After the child starts walking, he gradually begins to feel his own individual existence more and enters a period of stubbornness with the mother. The mother should not be too anxious during this period and should allow the child to separate. Over time, the child should begin to be taught that there are certain limits. Every child needs some limitations in the environment he lives in. Therefore, to summarize, first love, compassion and trust should be established, and boundaries and rules should be imposed. demo Mother and father should be able to strike a balance when it comes to being critical and applying discipline. In establishing this balance, it is very important that the mother and father act together, work as a team and give similar messages to the child.
The responsibility of the child should not be left only to the mother!
In patriarchal societies like ours, the process of raising children is considered as the mother's duty, and the father has a very obscure place in this relationship. This situation causes the mother to take on too much responsibility, causing her to become very worn out and exhausted. The exhausted mother becomes more intolerant and quick-tempered, and her relationship with the child begins to suffer. Leaving responsibility and care for children entirely to the mother may negatively affect child mental health. Fathers or close family members should continue to support the mother and allow her to rest from time to time.
What are the wrong behaviors shown in the mother-child relationship?
When raising children, every mother can feel very tired and exhausted from time to time. Scientific studies have shown that families of all socioeconomic levels can display negative parental attitudes from time to time. What we call negative parental attitudes are behaviors such as threatening, yelling and hitting. In order to minimize these negative behaviors, mothers and fathers need to act together, raise their children with love and attention, reinforce their positive behaviors, teach new skills and behaviors, and act together to set basic rules within the family and put these rules into practice.
Create an environment of love, care and compassion for your child
Mothers must first give their children; I recommend that they create an environment full of love, care and compassion. A peaceful home should be transformed into a place full of safe and interesting activities for children. We must be parents who can respond immediately when children need help. However, we should thank him for waiting when he should have waited and then help him with his needs. We should appreciate behavior that we see as positive. Appreciated behavior is more likely to be repeated tar. We must set an example for our children with our behavior and speech, and teach them new skills and behaviors. We should have basic family rules in our home, when we give instructions, we should give clear, understandable and calm instructions, and we should be determined that our children follow these instructions. Children raised with positive family attitudes become happy individuals with strong social skills, full self-confidence.
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