Relating and bonding is a basic need for every living thing. Bonding is at least as important as eating, drinking, breeding, and safety. It allows us to make sense of our existence in the presence of another and to define ourselves within the theme created there. If the baby's basic and emotional needs are met regularly and consistently, a secure attachment begins to form. The bond established makes you feel loved and valued. In this period of intense need for care, the bond must be very strong. But as he gets older, it is normal for him to decrease as the things he can do on his own increase, and as he starts to take care of other people around him. After this period, the bond that the developing child will establish not only with the caregiver but also with the outside world becomes an important need. A person needs to develop new bonds and relationships throughout his life. Devotion in a love relationship also brings with it a strong fear of loss. People may find it difficult to stay away from the loved one or to be busy with something else. While commitment is related to the sense of belonging, addiction is; It is associated with the fear of losing. The point to be considered is the difference between a healthy attachment and addiction…
If the person moves away from other areas of his life, feels suspicious and afraid when separated, creates a habit of checking constantly, is happy when he is with you, very unhappy when he is apart, and his life is against. If it depends on the presence of the party, it develops an addiction. If the love relationship you live with often feels like "I can't live without it, everything depends on it", if it makes you forget your own
needs, if it only tries to please the other party, this means that this commitment is experienced at a level of dependency.
Everything in life should be based on a balance. This is where the difference between imagined and actual is formed. Dedicating your whole being to someone else's existence will not satisfy both you and the other party in the long run. The most important thing in all relationships Making room for emotional attachment. While establishing a single bond will make you tired, the bonds established in all areas of belonging will strengthen you.
Sincerely…
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