I will talk about our 3D rule, which I attach great importance to in psychological counseling processes, which I always mention to all individuals who consult me on various issues, and which plays an important role in solving the situation in many cases.
The 3D rule states that various thoughts arise in the minds of individuals in response to the events they experience. is the thesis that argues that the thoughts formed cause various emotions in people and that human behaviors are shaped as a result of emotions. In short, we can call it the Thought-Emotion-Behavior triad.
We all face many events in daily life. In the face of each event, some thoughts form in our minds. I have a question for you at this point. Can you notice the thoughts that come to your mind? Of course, what I mean here is not being able to notice every single thought. However, do you question what you were thinking and what was going through your mind during or as a result of events that negatively affected you and left a mark on you? Since the first days of my profession, I have observed that many of my clients care more about the thoughts of others rather than looking back at their own minds. This will be the most important point that I aim to make you, our valued readers, realize in this article.
We are social beings. We are beings who exist with relationships and experience various health problems (both physiological and psychological) when there is no relationship or it is unhealthy. We are not beings who can ignore the opinions of others and remain completely insensitive to society, the environment, the neighborhood and social media. In this regard, I would like to state that I do not find messages such as "don't care what people say", which have been constantly emphasized by various sources in our country for many years, to be fully accurate and applicable. Human beings constantly need an "other" in order to exist. This being the case, it will not be possible to ignore the other. At this point, it might be more accurate to emphasize this. Be careful to explore and notice your own thoughts rather than the thoughts of others. While it is not possible to fully know the thoughts of others, it will be much easier to detect your own thoughts. If a person can realize his own thoughts, he can experience emotions in the next stage. It will also be able to move towards the discovery of If a person turns to himself and asks, "I wonder how this thought made me feel?" If the question is asked, feelings of sadness, anger, regret, stress, fear, anxiety, restlessness, panic, anxiety and insecurity may arise. These emotions often cause people to take various actions. Therefore, we will have the opportunity to observe which behaviors we will exhibit in response to which emotions. In fact, asking three basic questions about what we experience will be the key.
1)What am I thinking about? What's going through my mind? What did I think?
2)What do I feel? What did I feel?
3)What am I doing? What did I do?
As I end my article, I would like to say goodbye to you with a quote from Mahatma Gandhi. Stay well...
Be careful what you say; turns into thoughts.
Pay attention to your thoughts; it turns into your emotions.
Pay attention to your emotions; it turns into your behavior.
Pay attention to your behavior; it becomes your habits.
Pay attention to your habits; transforms into your values.
Pay attention to your values; transforms into your character.
Be careful with your character; It becomes your destiny.
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