This sentence belongs to Sigmund Freud, the founder of psychoanalysis, whose name most of us are familiar with. We all know that we need both energy and experience at the same time to achieve clear success in life and ensure that "if only"s remain at a minimum. Because the best way to learn something is to experience it. Therefore, we assume that older people are more experienced. Of course, this is not always true. Because experience is gained experience. In other words, just experiencing an event is not enough; learning from that event, knowing how to approach similar events when faced with them again, and producing practical problem solutions are the equivalent of the word experience. Even though they are old, there are also people who have not gained experience despite having a lot of experience.
Young people always have more energy to take action than an older person, but their experience and knowledge are not as much as an adult's. Therefore, it is equally difficult to use the existing energy efficiently. Although adults try to help young people by sharing their own experiences in order to close this gap, this does not seem to be very productive. Because I said that the best way to learn is to experience life, not to listen to it from others. Yes, sometimes these experiences can be very painful, but when giving advice to your children, you start from the painful experiences you have had. If that trouble had not happened to you, if you had not experienced that intensity of emotion, gloom, and struggle, what happened would not have such a place in your mind. I'm not saying you shouldn't talk to your children and share your experiences. Of course, share your experiences with them, but at least talk about them, and let them imagine where the story would end if you had gone back to the past and gone down different paths. So, even if you are going to give advice, at least push your children to think and question. You will see that they will be a little more impressed and will want to benefit from your experience.
Despite everything, I have a reminder for parents. You want your children not to make the mistakes you made, but to take action at the right time and take the right steps. However, if your expectation were correct, there would be a period of 60 thousand years since the emergence of modern humans. In the past, we would have long since stopped making mistakes and become perfect individuals. We would have long ago stopped saying things like "everyone makes mistakes" or "one misfortune is better than a thousand advices".
If parents want to help their children, they should talk about the mistakes and errors their children make. They should express that most of the paths we take in life are the result of choices at our own initiative, and that making choices is under our control. When their children make a mistake, instead of saying "I told you so", they should talk about the consequences of this mistake and what they will do when they encounter a similar situation again. Most importantly, be the best example you can for your children. While you are making a mistake, it may not be reliable to give advice to your child about the issue you made a mistake.
At the end of the article, I would like to remind you of this once again. No matter how hard you try, your children will continue to make mistakes and face the consequences of these mistakes. As parents, when your child makes a mistake, instead of getting upset because they are upset, try to think that he/she has gained a new experience about life and think "fortunately he/she has learned something new."
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