Is this the fate of happy relationships? Why does one of the parties choose to cheat in relationships that start and continue happily? It can be said that there has been a significant increase in hearing these and many similar questions in recent years. There are many different reasons for cheating. Therefore, it would be correct to evaluate each relationship on its own. Difficult experiences await both genders after cheating or being deceived. This process is very challenging and exhausting, especially for the person who has been deceived. After the surprise of the deceived person, he/she begins to feel intense anger and deep sadness underneath the anger. The beliefs of the deceived person are completely turned upside down and it can be said that emotions such as fear, anxiety, shame, insecurity, helplessness, anger, reproach, and damage to the belief in oneself and others begin to become complicated. It is also observed that there are changes in behavior such as becoming introverted, feeling more tense, constantly remembering the experienced event, and starting to do behaviors that have never been done in order to try to forget what happened. Should I break up with women, especially when the cheater is the man? Should I save the marriage? It seems that he is also experiencing his dilemma. While struggling with many questions such as what will I do if I leave, how will I live, will another woman replace me after all my hard work, what will my children do, experiencing dilemmas such as I can't continue the marriage like this, I can't look at your face every day, leads the person to psychological destruction. So do only men cheat? Do women cheat on men? While women can also cheat on men, the fact that it is less expressed causes uncertainty in the rate of women cheating. However, it would be more accurate to look at what happened after the cheating rather than why or who committed it. When men cheat, expressions such as "almost all men do it, I did it too", "I regret what I did, it happened suddenly", or when men cheat, "it's on his hands", "it's a man who does it", "the other party knows he's married, it's his fault" are used and naturalised. can be seen. However, when it is a woman who cheats, we can say that this situation is not naturalized in such a simple way. So why does a cheater cheat?
We mentioned that there may be many reasons, but one of them is the person's avoidance of attachment. For some, breaking up is harder. He/she prefers to have short-term relationships with others in order to avoid painful experiences after a breakup. In some relationships, people may choose to cheat because emotional needs such as constant hurt and indifference are not met. In this process, the person searches to fill the emotional void. Another reason is the difficulties experienced in breaking up. A person who wants to break up but cannot find the courage to do so wants to continue the relationship even if the excitement in the relationship decreases. It is alta when you get the opportunity to have a relationship with someone else during this time. Then, he defends that he is not happy in his relationship, that there are constant arguments, that he is bored, and that cheating may be justified with these and similar statements. It can also be said that the reasons for cheating may be due to situations such as feeling of being admired due to advancing age, economic conditions, and not being able to cope with the questions experienced.
Can someone whose marriage is perfect cheat? Yes!!! A person does not cheat just because of the problems he has. Although it is especially common in men, they may succumb to their momentary sexual urges and have sex with someone else. However, someone who has a wife and a separate lover and rents separate houses for these two women may love both of them and may not want to part with them. On the other hand, women may be interested in someone they have never seen on social media, or someone they are with for emotional reasons. Again, one of the prominent situations between men and women cheating is that the man loves his wife and does not want to break up, but he can continue his relationship with someone else. This situation is not the same for women; they feel uncomfortable staying at home together, using the same bathroom, sleeping together, and wearing the same ring. In general, it should not be forgotten that there are possibilities of saving the marriage regardless of the extent of cheating. During this process, the support that can be received by the deceived person as well as the cheater will be effective in ensuring that the decisions taken are accurate and realistic. Unless the cheaters see themselves as a part of the problem as much as the cheaters, the problem of cheating will continue.
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