''Let me finish these things, let me get over these troubles; "I will take care of my children." Mothers and fathers who say, "I don't enjoy playing games as much as my children do, I get bored. I can't respond to children's energy and demands, there are a lot of things I can't tolerate during the game.", lives that are postponed... And lives that turn into "if onlys" after all this...
Game; It is the most important tool that helps children develop their imagination and contributes to their social and personality development.
In our interviews with our clients, we ask "What do you remember about your childhood?" We get many answers to the question. The most valuable of these answers are the games that adults played during their childhood. The most important thing your children will remember is the time they spent with you and the good memories they had.
Nowadays, we see parents who know how to have fun with their children, regardless of their age, and enjoy playing games. While playing with their children, they realize how childish they have become. If, as parents, we were raised with the perception of unconditional love and value in our childhood; Spending time with our children and listening to their wishes is no longer a difficult situation. If the mother or father has a feeling of worthlessness or has been raised with conditional love, spending time with their children can turn into torture.
If our perception of value as parents is low, getting involved in our children's games and accompanying their emotions; So it will be difficult to stay in the game. We stand next to the child, but we can never accompany him in his play. We want the children to play in other rooms and get angry when they ask us questions. Or, as in the picture we see in some homes, we only accompany our children or play in success-oriented games or activities. Unfortunately, this culture exists in many societies. We do not like our children's games and always try to attract them to success-oriented games or activities.
Support your children with Imagination Games!
Always playing games with rules and order with your children. It will bore your children. Children's imagination with i sometimes refers to a wild animal; Sometimes they want to take on various professions such as doctors, teachers, magicians. Don't be afraid to support your children in this type of games. Sometimes children may suddenly want to get roughed up during play. They may want to jump into their father's or mother's arms and display wild behavior. Listen to your children when dealing with this type of behavior. Take a break from the game and say "I think you want to do other things" and switch to a different game where you can have lots of contact with your children and help them burn off their energy.
You can play board games!
You can play "box games" with your children, which are more structured, more structured and fun as well as physical games that will relieve your energy. There are so many benefits... Thanks to these games, they experience attention, being organized, obeying the rules, waiting their turn, controlling their impulses, exploring, touching-feeling, winning, experiencing, risking losing, remaining a child and making mistakes. First of all, of course, they experience having fun with their parents.
Stay away from gaming devices such as computers and phones!
In recent years, families have especially tried to spend time with their children. We can see that children aged 12 and above are involved in computer and tablet games. Your children may want to, but definitely stay away from digital games. You can play better quality and more interactive games that you can spend time with.
Play emotion-based games with preschool children!
Research shows that your children's ability to express their emotions and Emotion regulation dates back to preschool age periods. Emotions such as stress management, anger management or coping with sadness are always in this period. You can make emotion cards and play emotion role-play games with your children, or you can play with your child in a fun way by giving events and situations and reflecting which emotion in which situation.
Suggestions for parents
With your children. If you are reluctant to play the game or if this situation is challenging for you, you should definitely study your own process. this was You should know that this situation does not arise from the current situation, but is actually related to your perception of values that you experienced in your childhood. You can take the first step by studying your own processes.
If you organize playtimes with your children and turn them into a certain order and system, you will be comfortable and prevent untimely demands.
You can see that you cannot be a child while playing with your children. When you realize it, let your inner voice take over immediately. You can activate your pleasure-seeking side by saying, "Now it's time for me to enjoy myself and reveal my impulsive (childish) side."
If you are not ready to play games in any way, tell your child You can say this clearly. “I can't play games with you right now; Because…. You can explain as follows: "If it is convenient for you, I can play with you at this time." The child does not feel neglected and at the same time waits for the right time. In this way, you will prepare yourself for a time when you will feel better and not harm your child.
It is important that you are both emotionally and temporally ready to spare time for your child and play. If you have to get somewhere while playing with your child or if you have another thought in your mind, you should deal with these first or leave them out. Literally right there with your child; It is very important to stay in the moment.
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