Marriage therapy, couple therapy and relationship therapy; It aims to support the close relationships that individuals establish with each other.
-Alcohol or substance use of a family member
-Behavioral disorders or problems of children and adolescents
-Neglect and committing violence
-Deciding on divorce or separation
-Saving the marriage or relationship
-A healthy separation process
-Emotional The need for marital therapy may arise in different emotional and psychological problems such as abuse
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When individual therapy is insufficient to solve marital problems, when the beginning of the problem in one or both spouses is related to marital events and conflict When a couple in a difficult situation requests marital therapy, spousal therapy is considered.
A marital problem is likely to lie beneath the psychological disorder that seems individual when viewed from the outside, and one of the spouses may have difficulty accepting this situation.
Marriage/couple. The purpose of therapy; In couples, it is learning to understand oneself and one's partner. Therefore, learning to communicate is the most basic goal. As long as couples are open to change and development, there is no problem that cannot be solved.
Some of the issues addressed in marriage therapy:
-Spouses must learn to see each other as an independent, unique person, accept each other as they are and accept each other as they are. Ensuring that they can tolerate it
is one of the issues to be addressed.
- Spouses; Organizing their relationships with each other, their friends and family elders
-Learning to turn conflicts into opportunities, increasing communication skills
-Ensuring awareness of the strengths of the relationship
-Reducing conflicts and incompatibilities in the family Addressing the effects on child psychology .
Of course, a healthy relationship does not mean a relationship without arguments. As a matter of fact, a relationship without arguments is unthinkable. However, the discussions; If it leaves destructive effects rather than strengthening the relationship, precautions must be taken at that point.
One of the biggest mistakes made in communication and relationships is to always look for the cause of our emotions outside instead of looking for them within ourselves. When we adopt the approach of "How can we be happy together" instead of the approach of "You made me sad", "You hurt me", "Make me happy", many problems will be solved automatically. Being able to say "We" instead of saying "I" and being able to be "We" will overcome many things.
One of the recommended methods for a happy marriage in marriage therapy is "playing the three monkeys". Today, the expression "playing the three monkeys" is used to mean that a person pretends not to see, hear or know things he sees, hears or knows, "for his own benefit". However, “playing three monkeys” is a teaching depicted in a temple in Japan. The essence of this teaching, depicted in the relief on the wall of the temple with three monkeys, one covering its eyes, the other covering its ears, and the other covering its mouth, is "not to look at the bad, not to listen to the bad and not to say bad things." The only thing that needs to be done is not to see every mistake your spouse makes and not to throw it in his face, not to hear every bad word he says and not to respond or speak badly.
The first few years of marriage are difficult. Two different people coming under the same roof may cause some disagreements. However, at this point, it is of great importance that couples accept each other as they are and focus on understanding each other rather than trying to change each other.
E The risk of disharmony, conflict and separation is high in the early years of marriage. In couples who have survived this period, marital conflicts may still occur after having children. Conflicts and disharmony experienced in the family directly affect child psychology. Even if the psychological problem that develops in the child is completely individual, it is very important for the parents to cooperate and act together in the treatment. For this reason, marriage therapy will again support the treatment at this point.
If in a marriage there are more sentences filled with "I wish" than "I'm glad" sentences, it is necessary to consult a specialist.
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