If you have an Addiction (Disability) schema, some of the following items will be very familiar to you:
- I have trouble dealing with everyday situations.
- I have trouble making decisions.
- I don't trust my own judgment (ability to make decisions).
- I feel like I have no control over my own life.
- I don't like changes in life.
- I need someone to show me what to do .
- I often ask people for help and advice.
- I often ask questions while working on a new task.
- I don't want to take on new assignments. I don't like change.
- I don't travel alone.
- I have a hard time managing my finances.
- I think I don't know what to do if something goes wrong.
- I worry a lot about problems that may arise.
- I can't take care of myself.
- I have a hard time coping with life.
- I am incompetent/incompetent.
- My parents do many things for me.
- My parents show me what to do with each new step.
- I feel inadequate inside, but I can do anything.
- New resolutions I was always successful when I got it, but I felt that I couldn't succeed this time.
- I definitely don't ask people for help. I can handle everything myself. (Schema overcompensation)
- I can manage my affairs, but inside I worry that I will be inadequate. (Schema overcompensation)
If you have an Addiction (Disability) schema, you may have childhood experiences similar to the following:
- My parents did everything for me.
- My mom/dad gave a lot of direction when I started a new job. (“Do this”, “Do this”)
- I've heard a lot of things like "I told you so" after making a mistake.
- I've heard a lot of things like "If you make a mistake, don't come to me" .
- My mom/dad used to warn a lot about possible disasters. (“Be careful”, “It's dangerous out there”, “It's deep down there, don't swim there”)
- My mom/dad wouldn't care what I did when I started a new job.
- How do I deal with my problems? They did not give any idea what I would do.
- My family does not give enough support and guidance found.
How does the Addiction (Disability) schema affect your life:
- You have no stamina/ability to withstand stress.
- You are very anxious.
- You experience panic attacks.
- You are afraid of many places and crowds.
- You have various phobias.
- Your life due to the precautions you take to protect yourself from phobias and dangers. extremely restrained.
- Your spouse/lover gets tired of taking on the role of your caregiver.
- You lack the belief that you can be self-sufficient, able to do your work. (You won't feel autonomous.)
- You can't spare enough time to have fun and relax.
- You may develop addictions such as alcohol addiction.
- (In case of overcompensation) -without help- for every task You experience unnecessary stress because you are trying to be self-sufficient.
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