The Adventure of Creating Relationships

Relationship; It is the social bond formed as a result of human interaction with people in order to maintain their existence. Healthy relationships nourish the person's sense of self by making them feel valuable, lovable and meaningful. In a healthy relationship, commitment, love, strength, compassion and protection are emotional states that people feel towards each other in a balanced way. Healthy relationships give the person enthusiasm for life, strengthen the body's immune system against stress and diseases, and increase the person's success in work and relationships.

Spatial proximity creates a natural orientation in human relations. Spatial proximity increases people's encounter with each other. This leads people to establish more relationships with each other and get to know each other. As the physical distance between people increases, interaction and sharing decreases. If people's values ​​and interests are similar, physical proximity leads to increased interaction.

                  The essence of every relationship is to meet needs. Long-lasting relationships; These are relationships in which the parties are sensitive to each other's needs and the needs are met in a balanced way. The mutual sensitivity that people show in protecting each other's rights and meeting each other's needs creates the "perception of justice in the relationship". If people believe that they receive benefits commensurate with their contribution and effort and fulfill their duties and responsibilities towards each other, a perception of justice occurs in the relationship.

                  Relationships that meet people's psychological needs and directly affect their development; These are relationships based on personal choices and long-term sharing. Relationships such as friendship, spouse, friendship, and membership in a group that serves long-standing values ​​create bonds of belonging and a sense of identity in people.

                  The continuity of relationships depends on the nourishment of the relationship. Satisfy your needs New relationships, groups and institutions that do not satisfy the needs of their members cannot survive for a long time. People enrich each other's existence in a relationship and invest in each other's existence. These investments; It is expressed through sacrifices, sharing experiences and emotions, financial support, gifts, solving problems, devoting time, teaching. The more nurturing and rewarding contributions the parties in a relationship make to each other's existence, the higher the satisfaction received from the relationship. High satisfaction enables people to bond with each other. The more people contribute to a relationship, the more they try not to lose it. Because man, with the assets for which he has paid a price and worked; They become integrated due to common memories and common experiences. When a person loses the relationships that integrate him, he loses the resources from which he feeds. The greater the lost relationship, the more emotional emptiness occurs inside the person.

                An important evaluation error in relationships is that people act with the assumption that the people they establish have the same expectations, feelings, needs and thoughts as themselves. Before a relationship bond is established, people; They should learn each other's interests, the places they spend their time, what they like and dislike, and the jobs they spend the most time on. This approach is an effective method for people to understand whether they can adapt to each other and then make the decision to end, limit or deepen the relationship.

 

                   The tendency to change people in human relations causes conflicts in relationships. Rather than trying to change people in relationships, setting the limits of communication is the right approach. People respond more to pressure being put on them than to change. They become defensive because trying to change them also makes them think that their personality is not approved.

                  Human He is a weak being at birth, a being in search of a different meaning from the other. Therefore, no relationship can be perfect. Accepting this fact is the foundation of building good relationships. Being aware that humans are weak beings enables us to tolerate unintentional mistakes that may occur in relationships. In relationships, accepting people's differences in language, color, race, culture, identity, physical appearance and personality facilitates respect, tolerance, compromise and orientation towards a common goal.

                  In relationships, similar beliefs, values, feelings, ideas and Focusing on experiences creates understanding, acceptance, tolerance, compassion and commitment.

                  Respect, listening, openness, humility, honesty, trust, forgiveness and self-sacrifice are the basic values ​​and behaviors that strengthen relationships.

            a) The first step in establishing a nurturing, healthy relationship is for people to accept each other's uniqueness and respect each other's existence.

            b) The second step is for people to build trust among themselves through the understanding, kindness and support they show to each other.

           c) The sensitivity and responsibility they show in meeting each other's needs is the third step.

          d) The fourth step is for people to establish a bond of love between them by teaching and serving each other through constant sharing.

          e) The fifth step is for people to try to understand each other and convey healthy communication to others. As people's common values ​​and areas of sharing increase, their commitment to each other becomes stronger. If the values ​​of two people overlap with each other, the emphasis on the concept of "we", which expresses belonging, increases in their communication.

                Friendship. ; It is a commitment relationship built on naturalness and openness, formed by two people who trust each other, believe in common values, and are sensitive to each other's existence, with the aim of improving each other. Situations of doing the same job and sharing the same space; It has a positive effect on the formation of friendship as it increases interaction and sharing between people. Having similar interests, worldviews and values ​​forms the psychological basis of friendship.

 

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