The fact that we repeat the past in the moment is as similar as these two words.
In the first months of the baby's birth, the face of the people he interacts with, other parts of his body and the objects around him cannot be perceived as a whole. . Objects and the emotions experienced with objects are recorded as parts in the baby's brain. While the interaction with the object is recorded in the brain, it is recorded together with other stimuli around it. The heat, light, color, smell and sound that are around at that moment are all taken in simultaneously as an experience. If these experiences make you feel pleasant emotions, they are accumulated in the "Libidinal pole" simultaneously with other stimuli around you. If they make you feel bad emotions, they are accumulated in the "Aggressive pole" along with all the stimuli around.
Positive and negative until the age of 3. Experiences are kept separate from each other by the "splitting" defense mechanism. In children raised in a healthy family environment, after the age of 3, the division disappears and the libidinal and aggressive poles are integrated. More experiences in the libidinal pole will subsequently correspond to a stronger ego structure of the person. Too many experiences in the aggressive pole will then correspond to a personality with a weak ego.
Every experience recorded in the brain has a self pole and an object pole. An emotional bond connects these two poles.
If pleasant emotions are experienced with an object; When that object is seen again, it evokes pleasant emotions. Not only the object similarity, but also other simultaneously coded stimuli independent of the object make you feel the same pleasant emotions when seen again.
If the moment experienced with the object makes you feel negative emotions, all other stimuli that are simultaneously present at that time, such as the paint of the room, are around at that moment. The smell, the color of the wall, the music in the background, the physical characteristics of the interacting person, his hair, beard, eye color, size, etc. are all collected in the aggressive unit along with his simultaneous emotion.
These are saved in the brain like a zip file.
If any stimulus in the environment you enter, such as heat, light, color, smell, person, person's voice, hair, beard, moustache, is similar to those in your past records, the emotion in those records will be revealed. The emotion you feel at that moment is actually the emotion of your past life. is water. It has only emerged due to the similarity of physical conditions.
In your life, you are drawn to some colors, some sounds, some smells, some tastes, and some people, without knowing why. You want to stay in some environments for a long time because of the peace you feel. You feel a closeness towards some people that we cannot name. Sometimes this feeling is so intense that it can be defined as "LOVE". You can even say, "We just made eye contact, I had a great feeling inside me, I can't forget it since that day."
However, what is revealed with that person is the feeling of the person coded in the past. This feeling can be felt by your childhood caregiver; It is the coded emotion that your mother, father, caregiver or significant other in your life makes you feel. Now you try to make sense of this feeling that emerges from the similarity that you were not aware of.
You don't like some of them for a reason that you don't know, and you want to get away from that environment quickly. You can't stay around some people for a long time. In some environments you feel suffocated and stuck. You have a hard time making sense of this. You say, "There is nothing bad he did to me, but for some reason I couldn't love him." Because these feelings are mostly related to your experiences between the ages of 0-6 that you cannot remember. When the brain sees a stimulus that is associated with a previous experience, it remembers it. The emotion coded with this emerges at that time and is felt by the person. However, an image or memory of this is often not remembered because it belongs to a very young age. For this reason, the emotion felt cannot be interpreted.
In your records, you also have the body symptoms felt at that moment, such as the emotions felt during your experience and the environmental stimuli around at that moment. If the experience you had in your childhood excited or frightened you at that time and made your heart beat faster, your brain starts to increase your simultaneous heartbeat when it catches any stimulus that reminds you of that moment. For the same reason, you feel some changes in your body when you enter some environments. For example, your heart beats faster, you start to have cold sweats, or you have pain in any part of your body. Physical symptoms such as numbness, feeling of nausea, pain, itching, decrease or increase in your blood pressure occur. You cannot make sense of this either. This time, what emerges now are the body reactions that occurred in your body during your previous experience and were coded with the current stimuli.
Suddenly, your heart starts beating fast, but you cannot find a reason for it. However, your brain definitely found a familiar at that time, someone who reminded you of the past. Most of the time, you are not even aware of the environment in which these symptoms appear. Because in one environment it is the smell that reminds us of this, while in another environment it is the color similarity that reminds us of this. For this reason, when you think about what triggers your complaint, you have difficulty finding a common point.
Most of the time, you perceive these complaints as a symptom of a disease. Most of the time, these complaints are examined and no underlying disease can be found, and most of the time, at the end of this process, you have to say that my complaints are psychological.
This process often ends with medications that either slow your heartbeat or are psychologically soothing. Then you say, "I am comfortable using the medications, but when I start reducing the medications, my complaints start again." You begin to worry about whether he has become addicted. However, what the drugs you use often do is to act as an insulating material between your source emotions from the past and your consciousness.
When the insulation is removed, those unpleasant emotions reappear with the body symptoms in which they are coded. Thus, your life continues in a vicious circle. This is the reason why we "look for the past" at the root of excitement, panic, distress, anxiety that something bad will happen at any moment, and many unpleasant emotions. It is possible for these feelings to disappear when we can reach the source of the emotion you are complaining about, that is, your first childhood experiences.
Your mind is the treasure chest that you filled in on a journey years ago...
Now, we must search for your chests in the place where you sank your ship...
Inside We must release what you have imprisoned… We must use it as a light on your path, to illuminate your present troubles…
We are reflections of the past… Wrong While we are trying to live with our samas…
It is the light that must be sought and found under stagnant waters…
With love…
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