What is the feeling of emptiness?
The feeling of emptiness means the inability to feel any emotion, good or bad. The brain needs a good or bad feeling. Otherwise, it is unbearably bad.
How does one experience the feeling of emptiness?
The feeling of emptiness, the feeling of watching life from a distance like watching a movie, the feeling of not being able to live effectively, the inability to enjoy anything, everything is just like that. It may manifest itself as a feeling of insignificance and meaninglessness, inability to feel good or bad feelings, absence or minimal bodily sensations, a dull state, a feeling of not belonging to the family/friend group/society/world. its intensity and duration impair the functionality of the person. When this feeling lasts for a long time, the person becomes alienated from both himself and what is happening around him, he becomes numb and his perception is impaired. Self-alienation is the inability to feel bodily sensations and emotions. All five senses of the person are turned off, seven foods taste insipid, for example, or hearing and perception of spoken words slows down, he cannot feel any sensation in his body… Its name in psychology is depersonalization. Sometimes, the person is detached from what is going on around him and has difficulty in perceiving the place, the place, the time and the people. His body is there, but his mind is disconnected from the environment. He has difficulty in perceiving what is being said in his environment and what he is doing at that moment. For example, he is not aware of the path he is walking, and when he finally realizes it, he may react, "When did I get here?" In psychology, this is called derealization. Both conditions greatly impair functionality.
Another effect is that the person acquires various addictions such as cigarettes, alcohol and drugs in order to get away from this feeling. People who feel intense emptiness often exhibit behaviors such as overeating, excessive shopping, or excessive masturbation. The common goal of all of them is to escape from the feeling of emptiness, which is the source of childhood, and the negative memories of childhood that it is associated with. Although all these feel good in the short term, it is harmful for mental and physical health in the long term.
What is the connection of the feeling of emptiness with childhood experiences?
The human brain wants to establish a relationship with the other object from the moment it is born. It is the need for good or bad contact with the other. The brain develops with contact. interior The world feeds, expands, grows, especially as it establishes positive contact. In the 0-6 age period, which we call the early development period, the neglect of the child by the caregiver is the source of the feeling of emptiness. What is meant by negligence; It is the deprivation of a child of another to meet his or her physical and emotional needs. In other words, the fact that the child has little contact with the caregiver, has little contact with the caregiver, cannot reach him when he needs it, that is, he has to grow up on his own, causes an intense feeling of emptiness. There may be a sense of emptiness. The reason for this is intergenerational transmission. This means that the person who cares for the child has such traumas in their own story and can transfer them to the child without realizing it. If I open it, let the mother care for the child. There are memories of the mother being neglected, not cared for, not contacted in her own childhood. She reflects these traumas to the child unconsciously. She unconsciously tries to make the child feel the sense of emptiness in herself. Does not make physical or eye contact with the child; when he builds it, he looks or touches it with a sense of emptiness, sometimes ignoring it. She sees someone who has grown up on the news, she immediately looks at the child with that feeling. Sometimes he can make sentences such as: "You are my lifeblood! What will I do without you, what do I have in life other than you? You are my reason to live.” These are different ways of conveying the feeling of emptiness. As I said, these are unconscious behaviors. This is a chain that has been going on for generations. If a person does not break this chain, he will leave a similar legacy to the generations that follow him. She can do activities that stimulate both her bodily sensations and her inner world, such as staying in the moment practices, meditation, and massage. For example, when you go for a massage, you can say to yourself, "I was not contacted when I was little, I was not touched, I meet this need by myself." While doing these activities, the body can be scanned, it is useful to focus on the sensations in different parts of the body. Doing it mindfully heals.
Basically, the feeling of emptiness is The places where they live today and their childhood counterparts are researched, studied and the emotion is discharged. Another benefit of therapy is that it empowers the person to meet their own needs. It liberates the person.
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