With the start of the new education period, the most important thing that makes many families think is whether their children will study, whether it will be sufficient if they study, or whether they will achieve the desired success in return for their studies.
Studying is a habit that can be acquired by providing appropriate physical conditions and discipline, and by providing the child with a sense of responsibility and timely commitment. Acquiring this habit is directly related to the sense of trust that will be given from the age of 1-1.5, when the child starts to stand on his own feet. Children of that period try to do everything themselves, trying to show both themselves and those around them that they have grown up and are no longer dependent on others. This sense of trust is often blocked by parents with their protective instinct and concern that something bad will happen to them. The child is constantly warned and exposed to warnings such as "don't pee, don't touch, it will hurt, you will fall, you will be ugh". This attitude is like a lock placed on the child's determination at that time. With the start of school, the child is constantly reminded that he must succeed, but the child may not be able to see this confidence in himself due to the obstacles. For this reason, children's curiosity and determination to succeed should always be appreciated and supported, and should only be prevented with explanations in dangerous situations. Self-confidence, curiosity, appreciation and motivation will positively affect the child's interest in the lesson.
In addition, some situations arising from the child's own behavior negatively affect studying and success. These are Attention Deficit, Hyperactivity Disorder, Intellectual Disability and Learning Disorder in the child. These need to be identified and taken into appropriate treatment and education programs.
I wonder if we can make people love studying? We get what you want, we don't do what you say, but we can't make them love studying, how can we make them love studying?
Studying is actually an unpleasant and difficult task for many children. For this reason, children avoid difficult and unpleasant work. They try to escape as much as they can. In addition, the influence of today's technological devices (computer, mobile phone, playstation) and social media further increases this difficulty. There are so many enjoyable stimuli that attract children's attention that they have difficulty staying away from these stimuli. Instead of keeping children completely away from these stimuli, they should be allowed to spend time in controlled and limited periods of time.
So, what kind of order should be provided for children to study?
No success comes without effort, it is not accidental, it is obvious. Success can only be achieved with time and discipline. This discipline should not only be expected from the child, in the same way, parents should be a partner in working, at least they should motivate their children by reading newspapers, books, magazines, etc. during the hours they work.
For students who go to school in the morning, they should spend at least 1-1.5 hours after school. Time should be allocated for rest, and the child should be allowed to spend these hours as he wishes. For students who attend in the afternoon, their study schedule should be adjusted to the morning hours. The study area should always be the same environment, the desk should not be in places such as windowsills that will distract the child's attention, and there should not be anything else on the desk other than the equipment required for the lesson.
Realistic, capable programs should be created for the child, and these programs should be prepared at certain periods (weekly, monthly). ) should be reviewed and new targets should be created based on the rate of realization. The study schedule should be arranged in advance; A goal should be set to study for a certain number of hours, to finish a certain subject or to solve a problem.
When the goals are achieved, the child should be motivated with rewards that are not financially serious but that he/she enjoys (going to a movie of his/her choice, increasing the time spent on TV or computer for certain periods). , buying the clothes or shoes he wants, etc.).
If the child complies with his schedule during the day, warnings to work more should be avoided; if it is believed that it is possible to work more, it should be waited until the next review period.
If the work is not sufficient or the programs are disrupted, deterrence is required. Third penalties may be applied. These punishments may include depriving children of their favorite things (limiting the computer, not playing games for a certain period of time, shortening TV time, etc.), cutting off their pocket money, or not buying a favorite toy, dress, or sneakers.
In the final analysis, whatever happens. Without forgetting that the other person is a child, without humiliating him, without comparing him with others, without constantly warning him with similar expressions; We must plan by speaking clearly about what we want from him and taking his opinion.
We hope that our children, who are our future, will be happy, self-confident and successful….
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