Power struggle in couple relationships can be shown as one of the most common couple problems. So much so that this war preserves its warmth as it did on the first day with what has been brought from the past to the present. Couples can suddenly find themselves in the same circle of fire with a statement said years ago or a look that is remembered as having been thrown. Moreover, this situation does not only happen to married couples. Every couple in a relationship may experience this power struggle from time to time.
Just as winning is the most important thing in wartime, couples attach great importance to finding "the one who is right" during the power struggle. And without realizing it, they focus only on this. Being right and proving it to the other party becomes so important that the parties eventually give up and wholeheartedly believe that the problems cannot be solved. This belief can also bring with it intense helplessness, fatigue and exhaustion.
However, let's not forget that the couple relationship is not a battlefield that requires showing strength. Everyone desires to be happy, to share, to love, to be valued and to be understood in their relationships. Sometimes, it is quite natural that there are issues and situations that the relationship has difficulty overcoming. While couples are very focused on fighting each other, it is a point to consider who stays there and continues to strive for the relationship. Another point to consider is that the source of the problem(s) causing the power struggle may be based on many factors. For this very reason, couples therapy examines the patterns around the problems, communication styles, learnings and effects. In couples therapy, this power struggle is addressed in all its aspects through a secure bond established with the therapist of the relationship. The social environment, the culture they adhere to and any situation that may lead the couple to this war are evaluated.
Powers, roles and balances in the relationship may change over time. What is important is the ability of the couple dynamic to adapt to new situations. And unfortunately, a single party's effort will not be enough for this skill. All parties involved in the relationship must voluntarily participate in the couple therapy session for the well-being of the relationship. When working with couples who apply for couple therapy support with this problem, the goal is to solve the relational problem in a permanent, effective way. finding practical and applicable solutions. During the solution finding phase, the strengths of the relationship, the frequently used forms of communication, and those that keep individuals in the relationship are discovered. At the same time, it is aimed to find new functional communication/relationship forms in order to increase the communication between couples and the trust in the relationship. For this purpose, it is very important to talk to couples about the relationship and their roles. With the participation of couples together, the aim is to create a safe space in the session room and expand this safe space outside the session room.
Let's not forget that power struggles can be seen from time to time in every relationship. This is even true for happy couples. In such times, embracing the hope you have with your couple and receiving couple therapy support can bring you closer to the good days to come in your relationship.
Hoping that all the good days to come reach you quickly.
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